Need a handhold-have to get lawyer involved regarding my ex husband.

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My ex-husband has been ignoring the legal obligations he has in our divorce settlement on many many occasions.
He used Covid to keep me away from my children.
I have to confront him legally and tbh it is making me a shaking wreck.
I have to employ a lawyer via the Internet because of where they are based.
I don't have much money but might be able to stump up enough to pay a lawyer to write him a letter outlining the many ways in which he is not complying with the legal agreement that we have.
But its making me feel sick and shaky because it could lead to him trying to amend the agreement through a lawyer and getting the things we agreed changed.
He is far far wealthier than I.
But at this point I don't see any other way of resolving this.
Please give me a handhold to do this, as it needs to be done.

Anyone? Please? Could really do with some moral support with this.
Hurting so badly as a consequence of his actions.

If he is not complying with legal obligations that he has been given, go to the police. That would be my first port of call.

If the legal obligations are ones in consent order they're not usually a police matter. Can you give some more detail OP? I don't know enough but hopefully someone on here can help. There's also a legal section on forum if relationships doesn't get you the information you need. There is always the option of self representing if you can't afford a lawyer and don't qualify for legal side. Getting a letter sent registered post and needing signature outlining all the breeches and outlining what needs to happen to comply with the court order would I think be a good first step. But would probably need to be backed up with the threat of court action. He doesn't sound likely to just agree and start complying.

Not sure if that is a thing. I know he could be held in contempt, but that is a civil matter not a criminal one.
I wish what he is doing and has done could be seen as a a criminal offence but its not to be I don't think.
I wish it was a criminal matter would make all this so much easier and thank you for replying x

Are you UK based? How has he used covid to stop you seeing your DC - there were specific exemptions to allow for children to move between both parents

I may be wrong, but it seems that you are not in the same country as your husband - is that the reason you haven't been able to see your children? I would greatly caution about getting an "internet lawyer" - a letter telling him that he hasn't been keeping the agreement won't have any impact and is a waste of money. And you have no idea about the experience, expertise or even the legality of anyone on line.

You really need to tell people what you think this legal agreement is, how it was agreed, where you are and where the children are, and why they are with their father in the first place. Without even that basic information nobody is going to be able to help you.

They are in different country.
Hague Convention is why they are there and not with me, along with other complicating factors such as me being bi-polar and he being a horrible human being. There were exemptions from both the UK and the USA governments for parents of children to visit them.
My ex-husband would rather the children suffer mental damage from not seeing me for an extended period, than be a reasonable human being and fulfil his legal obligations.
He just had them both vaccinated without consulting me, under the terms of our agreement, he is meant to consult me on decisions regarding their health.
He has physical custody but we both have legal custody.

I also wasn't going to get some random lawyer involved, just in my circumstances, I won't be able to sit down fave to face for them.
Also wasn't really after advice, I am pretty sure at this point that a letter from a legal body is all the recourse I have, without having many thousands of pounds in my bank account, which I don't.
But in terms of if he does get the agreement amended, in terms of seeing them, it could not really get any worse but if he is willing to use his large financial resources, he could get a judge to rule I am allowed no contact whatsoever with them.
Which would be heart breaking but I do think he is the kind of person to do something like that, actually I don't think that, I Know that the only thing holding him back from that, is the money he would have to spend to do so.