I am stuck at home recovering from surgery 12 days ago. Boyfriend of a year has 2 small kids and his own place, it’s half term so he’s been busy. I was invited out places with him but I can’t go.
I have no problem whatsoever with him doing his own thing and that’s never been an issue.
I didn’t hear from him all day and then got 6/7 messages just to to ask me if I am ok and that he’s ‘so worried’ about me and last night I got annoyed and told him I was not his elderly grandmother 
He had asked if I was ok 6 or 7 times and I said ‘yes fine’, but then kept asking if I am REALLY ok and digging at it.
Sometimes I am ok - having a good day, feel good and less pain, sometimes not ok, some pain, a little bit of low level depression at times (hormones maybe) and FOMO - I have stopped looking at FB entirely for a little while and finding some activities to do. But I would say honestly outright if I was or wasn’t ok.
When I called him out on this - I wasn’t lying when I said I was ok the first 5 times so let’s talk about something else, he said that he felt this might be his fault, because he assumes from what happened in his marriage, that I (women) have other meanings to the things they say and he has to work out what things really mean. Therefore his day was ruined by him stressing that I was not ok, and lying I was ok, and that he had to work out whether I was or not and was tying himself in knots.
At least he has acknowledged this but now I feel guilty, like perhaps I have misled him in some way?