Dating site help

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Good evening wise people in my phone . First time poster here ...myself snd my husband separated 9 months ago (his decision ) together 14 years married for 5, one child together . It's taking me a long time to come to terms with the ending of my marriage but I am getting there . I am looking to dip my toe back in the water but not ready to fully jump in the pool just yet . So I'm looking for a dating site that's preferably free that isn't full of guys after one thing . Where I can just have a chat and maybe a date with no pressure ...does this exist ? Thanks 😊

All the sites are full of guys wanting casual fun, some do want to date and not just sex but it's up to you to do the weeding out, there is no pressure, you decide what's acceptable to you and only go on a date if you want to.

@seensome

All the sites are full of guys wanting casual fun, some do want to date and not just sex but it's up to you to do the weeding out, there is no pressure, you decide what's acceptable to you and only go on a date if you want to.

Thanks for replying ...I was afraid of that ..suppose I'll just have to give it a go and see how I get on . Thank you

Try plentyoffish. It's free. I am on it, but am unlikely to date anyone as I've not had the jab.

It will give you an idea of what it is like out there.

From my experience, it's men who are divorced for a reason or people looking for sex.

Pof is full of creeps IMO bumble and hinge a bit better and free.

Same blokes on all the sites. It’s a full time job sifting through them

@seensome

Pof is full of creeps IMO bumble and hinge a bit better and free.

I'd agree with this!

PoF any one can (and will) randomly message you anything they like. With bumble and hinge you at least need to match first so less chance of being harassed by the more blatant creeps 😂

I'd actually go as far as to say PoF is more sleazy than tinder - just my experience and I've tried most sites 🤦🏽‍♀️

They are all as bad as each other , my friend uses them and says all the men are on the same apps, I agree with pp best to join one where you need to “match” first

Thanks everyone ...I'm going to give hinge a go and see how I get on .eek

Good luck!

@KirstenBlest

Good luck!

Thank you !!!

I used bumble. You have control. Be open about what you want. I met s lovely FWB who has morphed into a boyfriend. I wasn't ready to begin with but it was nice and natural. Good luck!

I prefer Bumble as you have to match with someone and then you are the one who starts the messaging not them. Don't know if its just me being fussy but I've only had a handful of matches in 6 months and no dates. :(

I “met” (to talk to) loads of nice blokes on Tinder, and am now 10 months in and very loved up with the first one and only one I had an actual date with! (We were both initially looking for something causal, but we just clicked).

I was only on there for a few days as it worked out, but I fucking loved it! I think the key is probably to see the funny side and not take any of it too seriously. And try and push for an actual date sooner rather than later. I suggested a date a few texts in (unless they got there first) and stopped chatting to anyone who didn’t actually want to meet in person.

@Summerhillsquare thanks for the advice snd glad it worked out for you

@ArabellaRockerfella I'm sure you will soon ...even after the crap I've been through I still believe there is someone out there for everyone

@Lovelydiscusfish great advise thank you!