Breakup Conversation: Can he change?

[Couch2Potato]

I recently posted that I broke up with my boyfriend last week after two years after a year of bickering and him continuously sulking. Basically, he has a lack of emotional immaturity and narcissist tendencies.

During the breakup, he kept asking why I was breaking up and I said "because i'm not happy" but he kept promising that "i can make you happy", "why won't you give me the opportunity to make you happy again?"

he said that he used to make me happy and blamed it on the covid lockdown, so he can make me happy again. He's so adamant that he can make me happy.

'Narcissist tendencies' just waters down the issue. And whether or not he is one: he treats you shoddily.

There a saying about how madness, is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

YOU have to make your own happiness. Part of that is removing people who take away from your happiness from your life.

It's not him that needs to change.
It's you. By learning to choose yourself.

Block him and have done with it. Start looking to love yourself and create a happy and healthy life with KIND people in it. He is not kind, he never will be.

@Umberellatheweatha, I love your posts. You keep my head clear. Thank you again

People don’t change.

If you take him back, he will put on his Mr Nice Boyfriend mask for a bit. He may even keep it up for a few weeks. Then but by bit you'll be back to the same shit.

Tell him to take a hike. He's an arse.

@Couch2Potato

He can’t adapt. Lock down not an excuse. As he has had time to adapt and are the best of it

You know the answer and I am sorry you are living this.

My ex said he could change and make me happy again. It took literally one week for him to go back to exactly the ways that made me want to end things in the first place.