My long term partner has recently told me they no longer love me romantically and want to separate. I have found this news devastating as I love them with all my heart and they are my one and only love. have had ups and downs over the years and I can understand their concerns and feelings; the last year and a half has amplified certain problems. There has been very little intimacy for a while which I would always need to initiate and I am concerned my sadness and hurt for the one-sided nature of the relationship is going to turn into resentment. I am also very upset that I have contributed to their unhappiness and hurt as I care for them so much; with hindsight I can sadly now clearly and rationally see the patterns that have got us to this point. They say we have grown apart and have changed. I have probably relied on my partner too much emotionally over the years and now feel like I do not have much of a supportive emotional or social network. We have been in couples counselling. I have been an emotional mess recently which has probably exacerbated the situation and I am suffering from severe anxiety and depression (for which I am getting help) which is affecting my health and sleep and this situation has stirred up feelings of jealousy and distrust in me for the first time which make me very uneasy and uncomfortable. They do want us to live together separately and focus on the kids and work on our friendship but want to pursue separate lives; this is preferable to a messy separation but I am concerned due to my feelings I will not be able to make this arrangement work in a harmonious and productive way and I have a lot of fears about the future. I offered to sleep in a separate bed as I was not giving them enough space but now this seems to be a preferred and permanent arrangement to my partner but I am finding this crushing, heartbreaking, lonely and miserable. I am really struggling with all of this and have no desire or inclination for any other romantic relationships, but deep down, I need someone who will love me for who I am, emotionally, intimately and physically. I am also ashamed and embarrassed about what others will think and cannot imagine the future without them as my partner as I really like their family and we have shared friends.