Broke up then almost together again

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Broke up with partner 3 months ago, and now we are getting back together again. I was so upset at the time, I told one of my neighbours. Now my partner is coming back to my home, and I am worried my neighbour will say something to her about the breakup. I am desperately worried about this because I never told my partner that I spoke to the neighbour. I feel terrible for saying anything. My neighbour is a good person. Does anybody think they will say something or am I worrying too much?

What would happen if you told her?

This sounds pretty toxic op.

Well whats the worst thing that could happen if she does find out you said something?

Her: 'I dont like the neighbouts knowing our buisness!'
You: 'Yeah sorry about that. I just mentioned the house sale had had fallen through and we had split in passing'.
Her: 'I wish you hadn't done that but I suppose it cant be helped'.

Healthy exchange. Perfectly acceptable. Not a big deal. If she however continues to berate you for it...why the fuck would you keep someone like that around?

I would tell her if I was you.

Otherwise it will be a permanent sword over your head.

A reasonable human would have absolutely no idea why they couldn't comment about being glad you are back together. Is your neighbour reasonable?

Most partners don't 'kick off' the way you are worried about her doing. The ones who 'kick off' tend to be emotionally abusive at the very least. She has no right to control who you speak to and the fact that you're stressing about it is a very bad sign. Have you really thought about why you're getting back together? Why did you break up? Just missing the person isn't usually a good enough reason to go back if the relationship wasn't good.

OP the real issue is that you’re scared of your partner. That says it all.

But it was factually true - you weren’t together. They’ll put two and two together and realise you’ve reconciled.
Were you supposed to never tell anyone your relationship had ended? That statement was true and accurate and you can’t pretend it never happened. Your partner has no right or grounds to kick off about you updating your neighbour about your life. And that’s what to focus on if they do.

That's something I need to work on with her I guess

Does your partner see their own behaviour as problematic? Because if not, you're on a loser here.

Why did you break up?

Why are you getting back together, what has changed?

No your neighbour probably won't say anything, but I'll bet you feel a knot of anxiety everytime you see your partner chatting with them for the next 6 months over something completely normal that you truthfully said

This is what you're going back to.

Apologies if I'm wrong. Good luck