So my DD just turned 16 last week and we have always been super close. She started seeing a bf 1 months ago and started spending weekends at her dads (she very rarely goes!) He allowed her bf to stay overnight (which I wasn’t aware of) and consequently after her first sexual experience I had to take her for the morning after pill! And got the contraceptive pill at the same time.
Unfortunately the morning after pill didn’t work so 2 weeks ago I supported her whilst she had an at home termination..it was absolutely heartbreaking and to see my DD go through this was awful. I never informed her dad as we don’t speak and he rarely sees her but was furious that he openly allowed it. Last week I found out he had allowed it again so told her I don’t want her bf staying over or vice Versa and if she doesn’t like my rules then she should go live at her dads. She shouted and told me I should treat her like a grown up and dad says it’s a natural normal thing. I completely understand how normal it is but to be so accepting of it under his roof I can’t get my head around. He turned up like a knight to pick her up and I’ve not seen her for a week now. I’m devastated and don’t know what to do. I’ve messaged her saying I love her and always here for her but I can’t agree to the bf thing. Plus I’d think after what she’s been through (and me!) she would be more sensible. So mums what do you advise I’m missing her like crazy 😢