My husband decided to seperate a few months ago and has made life very difficult for me in the process. It could have been an amicable split but he seems to have had a personality change in the process. Anyway he has never been interested in our daughter since day one and ive been like a single parent since then so not much change for me.
However my husband has a thing about access - he is like a dog with a bone - I let him have her one day at the weekend since he has left (2 weeks ago) but is demanding that she stays with him one night (she is 19 months old) and that his parent will now look after her on the day my mum and dad look after her (which they have done since i returned to work 11 months ago) when Im working. I have told him he is lucky to get her one day at the weekend (I only allowed this because a friend whose husband left her with no contact said any dad was better than no dad) but he said this isnt enough and he is going to take me to court. Ive been told this will cost £4k and i have said to him its a lot of money but he said he isnt bothered as long as he gets the access her wants. I nor my family have any money but my husbands family are very well off so i feel he is using the money to get his own way.
My lawyer has said the court will not take into account the way he has treated me (emotional abuse) it will solely be on my daughters welfare. The bizarre thing is he has said to me twice since he decided to leave that our marriage started to crumble when i fell pregnant and he realised he was not ready for kids (he is 40 next year!). Its like a big PR exercise for his friends and family to make them feel sorry for him and my lawyer has said if its goes to court they may find in favour because men tend to win! I told my friend this and she said she didnt think that was right?
The other issue is our house is sold and due to complete on 30th NOv so my daughter and i will be homeless - he hasnt even asked where we are going. His lawyer has ignored my lawyers letters about his financies so I cant even buy a new home for my daughter or I since him and his lawyer are avoiding it. So I feel I am being blackmailed into giving access to him that i dont want to give him just so I can get my share of the finances and buy a house for my daughter and I.
If anyone can offer advise on this i would be grateful.