Musing about two homes

[iamtheoneandonlyyy]

This is kind of hypothetical because it's only a possibility for the future. I'm trying to figure it out and wondering if it's worked similarly for others.
A lot of 'let's presume'
I have a fairly big cheap rented house. 3 young children
Partner has own home purchased just before meeting plus one son
Presuming everything miraculously goes well over the next year or two partner suggests we all live in to the owned home. That's great but it's a fair bit smaller than the rented.
Bedrooms would have to be created that would be pretty snug.
The rented home has a nice garden fair sized bedrooms etc, the owned home doesn't.
3 children are full time with me and partners son is 50/50 and a teen.
It is unlikely the rented home owner will be thinking of selling or evicting any time soon.
I'm not being unromantic but does it seem possible to just use both places? I'd love us to all be together if that's how things pan out but also don't want to cause the kids (all of them) to have less than they can have space wise etc
Buying a different house not possible in the next couple of years.
I'm just pondering really

I wouldn’t want to put myself in a position where I had no security, you could be kicked out of the partners house with 3 small kids and no warning.
Obviously no one thinks like this when loved you, but you need to consider your kids
Also think moving into a smaller house with lots of kids having to be blended into a family isnt great for them.

Don't rush to move in together. There would be compromises required, far better to avoid those until even after the DC have moved out.

Enjoy having your own place meanwhile.

That's sort of part of it, it's more 'presume that doesn't happen' for the purposes of this though.
Partner is also keen on the idea of marriage and changing mortgage name etc again, all down the line.
I'm more wondering if keeping two homes going can work than anything else.
The houses are spitting distance from each other

Obviously I know the rented place isn't exactly mine as well and it's all what ifs anyway

I wouldn't move in with him, I'd much prefer separate places

@StarCourt yes I think there's the possibility for the best of both worlds

keep your own security 🌸

what did you decide to do 🌷

Your priority has to be your children.

Yes my priority is always my children, I haven't decided anything as it's hypothetical. I was looking for thoughts on keeping both places going if it becomes a possibility in a year or two.

I would not plan on moving in to his house at this stage, but if it all goes well consider it.
It might be better at that stage to buy somewhere together.

Using two houses seems perfectly ok, if it is working why change it.

Could he not rent his house out and move in with you?

@iamtheoneandonlyyy

Yes my priority is always my children, I haven't decided anything as it's hypothetical. I was looking for thoughts on keeping both places going if it becomes a possibility in a year or two.

good 🌸

@SillyBub it could be another possibility

I think I just quite like the set up as it is but trying to mentally prepare for eventualities

It's all only possibilities anyway, I could be hit by a bus tomorrow 🤷🏻‍♀️but hopefully not!