Met a man 10 months ago and we've talked the whole time. We've fallen for eachother but I've remained guarded and it's been abit allover because his ex is in the scene.
They split in march 2019. He's lived away from her now for 18 months. When we first met he mentioned her fairly quick. All lovely and friendly terms. Then he said they often would catch up and have a drink.
He told her about me. Then he stopped mentioning them ever seeing eachother. He would talk about the past abit. Often things he wants to do he's done with her.
There were times around Christmas he was almost ranting about her to me. But the moment I said well perhaps she needs to meet someone new herself now he would get abit protective and say they were really good friends and he cared about her like family.
We had a month apart because I just didn't know how I really felt about it all. It's a very intense friendship for a couple who fought for many reasons in the end.
We got back in touch and for the last three days he's mentioned her at some point.
The first time was to tell me something she's done and he's been learning from what she's learned.
Then he told me a funny story about something she did when they were together.
Then last night he was telling me why he was sad that things went as they did with me and why his feelings were real and he felt like I thought he was a liar. (Another woman who got involved with him after he had just split from her told me he was obsessed with her still) this was obviously 2 and half years ago. So it was still raw at the time. He was ranting about how angry he was at the woman for the trouble she had caused for him in regards to saying stuff to me. But she also contacted his ex to tell her about me, even though she already knew about me. Half way through his rant he said.
"She still tries to contact my misses, ex misses"
I said to him misses??? He said you know what I mean.
Anyway he wants us to start dating again. He promised me they are just friends and don't feel that way at all but get on as mates.
What would you do if everything else seemed good?