DH has been messaging and talking to a woman from work and when i found out he admitted he had fallen in love with her. They've not met physically because she started work in another office a few months before lockdown. Even though he denies it, i know he calls her daily (i leave my old phone on voice recording and hide it in his office) when i go shopping, for a walk etc.
I've heard him tell her he loves and how he would like to meet her when they can.
We've argued about this for a few months and when he lied about what he was doing, i told him i had proof because i recorded some conversations. He went mental and left for a few weeks to stay in a hotel.
We talked and agreed that because nothing had actually happened, we would give the marriage another go. Our sex life was good for a few weeks but then we argued and he slept in the spare room and stayed there for about a month.
Last week he came back to sleep in our bedroom, last night i tried to have sex but he told me he was not in the mood - he has never refused sex before! When i pushed him further he made so many excuses, he couldn't get hard etc
What is this all about? Is he so in love with OW tjat he cant be intimate with me?
Is my marriage over?