I used to get on well with my brother. It all changed a number of years ago. I can't think of any specific instance or row that we had where he withdrew. Basically the relationship between us has been very very limited. He is polite when passing with 'hello' but that's it between us. I made attempts before at conversation but it was met with one word grunt replies. He generally avoids me and stays in his room when I am at home. My mom says he the same with her but sometimes I think she's making that up to soften the blow for me. There's been times when I walked in and they were chatting together.
I do t know what his issue is and he never spoke to me.
I also think he is a drug user because there has been episodes where he stayed out with his friends and he hallucinated upon returning home. There been instances where he can stay in the bed for up to a week after going out with his friends. A lot of signs do point to drugs. Perhaps it's personality and mood changes to go with drugs.
There been some instances a few years ago where I wish I pulled him up on it at the time instead of letting it slide. For example the family pet dog needed vet care and I was trying to organise a vet appointment and I asked him what he thought - a blunt reply came - I don't know its not up to me before he fled to his room.
Another time I was starting out with a vape pen and needed helped to learn what the vape is all about. I wanted to give up smoking and I honestly didn't know how to use an electronic cigarette. He already had an electronic cigarette and when I asked for help - he grunted something like I don't know, it's jot my job, check YouTube - or it was something like that. He never once wanted to help me and perhaps sit down with me and show me the components of an electronic cigarette. That's just a few instances.
Sometimes I internalise this and I think 'what the hell did I do on him for him to not talk to me' and sometimes I end up feeling like shit.
Does anyone else here have a relationship like this with their sibling where its just hello in passing.
I don't know if this is drug related or him crashing or just him being a dickhead.