Anyone experienced blowing hot & cold advice

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I just wandered if you have ever experienced a man being hot and cold and did he eventually stop or was it doomed.

It was on and then off and now we are back half on. we've had the conversation that we both still like eachother. Still love eachother. We want to spend time together again. But he seems to be blowing hot and cold even though he was the one who came back reaching out.

It's like this.
Long phone calls discussing how close we were and how we've missed eachother.

The next day he wanted to get me a bracelet for my birthday that he missed whilst apart. Hasn't yet but he's sent me ones he likes to see what I think.

The next day he's just texting away about work. We go for a walk. Lovely. Chatty. Have a kiss.

The next day he's sexual in messages. Quite normal for us and we both enjoy this when we are apart.

The next day he's abit quiet and falls asleep early.

Chatty the next day as normal.

Another quiet day with just general chat.

Last night was a sexual night until midnight.

For the first day since we got back in touch he didn't text before work. Very out of character. Heard nothing from him all morning. Called him at lunch like he usually requests. Wasn't chatty and seemed quiet.

This is an example of how he's always been and not exact. Apart from the last two days. He has days where it feels he doesn't want to talk to me at all! It's so confusing.

Is this a sign he's regretting getting involved with me? I can't explain how distant he is being and it feels he doesn't care about me at all.

I'm not needy etc. He initiates alot of the contact and we are usually very equal!

Nothing you’ve written strikes me as odd. It’s unrealistic to maintain intense texting/chatting communication 365 days a year in my opinion. It’s quite normal to talk more on some days than others.

Also, the issue with ‘good morning’ and ‘good night’ messages is that if they ever miss a day then you start to overthink it. In reality, it doesn’t mean anything.

Do you think you’re reading into it probably too much because you’re having doubts about reconciling the relationship?

He's not that into you. If a man is interested you will know it. If he blows hot and cold he's not that into you. Once you understand that it's really quite simple

You like consistency, he isn't, that's incompatibility at best, and a headfuck at worst, whatever his reasons are is irrelevant, just don't go there anymore as he will make you miserable.

You say and normal say chatting - that doesn’t sound like blowing cold to me.

How long were you together? Why did you break up and how often do you see each other?

Justcallmebebes has it right. If you think they're blowing hot/cold or not sure what's going on they're just not that into you. If a man is into you you will know. Might seem harsh but it's true.

It's doomed, hot and cold behaviour stays that way until you fed up enough to leave the relationship, seems more of a text relationship than much else?

You need to set the bar higher OP.