I don't know where to start, my heads in such a muddle.
This past weekend I was visiting a family member when she told me she was surprised to see me and the DC with DH and the DSC, when I asked why she revealed that DD had told her infront of DH that DSC had inappropriately touched her and left marks on her that they saw and MIL apparently took photos of.
This happened 8 weeks ago and
Dh told me nothing about any of it.
I spoke to my DD who is only 5 but confirmed most of what I was told and then contacted the police and SS.
This is when DH got very angry at me as he had 'sorted it' by asking DSC if they had done what DD said and when they said no he considered the matter fixed.
MIL won't speak to me and definitely won't send photos the other family member has since given a statement to the police as have I and DH and police and SS have spoken to DD.
I'm now looking for somewhere for me and DC to stay as I don't feel I can continue a relationship with their DF and that he will not and has not acted in their best interests.
He is acting as if nothing has happened and doing his best to be really helpful and show what what good husband and father he is which is just highlighting how crap he's been in general recently. I haven't told him we are leaving yet, I'm waiting until I have somewhereto go.
Is this UR? He has a huge history of screaming and shouting over stupid things and its been getting worse over the last few years and he's began to get financially abusive but when I tried to leave before he made it really difficult and threatened to take the kids 50/50 but I know he won't do that as he doesn't even like watching them every other weekend on his own.
I guess I'm really just wanting a hand hold and any practical advice on how to actually leave.
I've name changed as this is obviously very outing.
I'm so scared though, this is a huge change and I'll be uprooting my kids, it's unlikely we will get somewhere in the same school zone for my DD or thats very close to my parents and I really need them for support and they look after my youngest so I can work.
Am I doing the right thing? I think I am but I'm so worried about all the change even though I'm so disgusted at what he did or rather didn't do that I can barely look at him.
Why do I feel this way?