...having children or having a fantastic relationship?
I've been pondering this question because my friend and I seem to totally disagree on this - this may partly be due to the fact that I already have children and she doesn't.
She has had an on/off relationship with a very difficult man for ten years now. About a year ago they split up and she had an affair with another guy, who was totally different to her ex in that he worshipped the ground she was walking on, wanted to commit to her etc... but she let him go and is now trying to sort things out with her ex again, while getting nowhere fast. She's 32 and I'm worried that she'll spend so much time doing this that she might miss out on having children, which would be devastating for her. But she says that he is the love of her life and that that is the most important thing.
I, on the other hand, have been with dh for 10 years now. We are happy, but not ecstatically so - we don't really have the same interests, just the same values and goals in life - the children are everything to us, and that's our main common ground. (I changed my name, by the way, as I wouldn't want dh to read this.) I know that he is faithful, dependable and a good provider. Some people might feel that what I have is not enough, that you should keep looking for your soulmate. But I feel that I'd rather have this relationship and have children and the life I have than hold out for something else while possibly ending up childless.
I know it's a very personal choice, but I was just wondering if there were people out there who feel like me?