asked husband to leave. Need a handhold!

[devasted2021]

Regular poster but name changed. Apologies for spelling errors- I can't stop shaking.

DH and I have had a difficult 18 months including me discovering and emotional affair last May. I thought we'd moved on but today I found out he has a secret Snapchat account... you can guess the rest.

I've asked him to leave and he's gone. To his mums I assume.

Together 14 years, married 9 with two kids- 13 and 4. I'm in shock.

Even my 14 year old can't be arsed with snapchat anymore.

What a twat. Is he five? Put the kettle on.

Well, you'll soon wonder why you put uonwth him he first time

Oh no, that's shit :-( Be gentle with yourself. Have you got family or friends around that can support you? x

No family close by. Friends, yes, but I want to process it first.

Have had tea. And wine.

I'm not even sad, just numb.

So sorry devastated. Sending hugs. Yes, be kind to yourself, give yourself time and allow yourself to be numb

You've done the right thing but he's a fool to lose you all

Perhaps tell a friend tomorrow and get a bit of support. I bet you are in shock. Be kind to yourself

Been there. Its awful. Take one day at a time. Remember to eat a little and drink. It's a bit of a roller coaster. Don't give yourself too much to do all in one go. You will become stronger but it's a bit like a grieving process which takes time yo work through. Look at the chumplady website. Sorry you're having to go through it, but he's not the person you thought he was and he doesn't deserve you.

Bless you. You will be in shock but get rid of the idiot.

Handhold. You’ll survive this, be kind to yourself.💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

Awww OP it's shite isn't it?
You'll go through a whole range of emotions. Just give yourself the time and space to work through them, with him gone you'll have a much better chance of doing that.
Try and keep having food and water to keep you hydrated. You need the strength and energy to help you through this.
Be kind to yourself

Be kind to yourself and keep remembering you have done the right thing.

What a twat.

Hand hold

It's totally unnerving when you realize that you have actually taken the step to throw them out, isn't it ?

It'll take a while for it to really sink in, but when it does, you can expect to go through all the stages of grief because you will grieve for the life you thought you had.

Well done in being strong enough, and to have been able to take the steps needed to preserve your mental health and dignity.

You did nothing wrong, your H is the person who is solely responsible for the whole mess and the break up of your marriage. Remember that !