Married and in love with other

[Bollocks989]

Hi this is ridiculous. It has happened a few times during my marriage. I have fallen for someone else. This time, I don't think it will go anywhere, but I am wondering whether I need to feel this with someone, so leave my marriage and take a break, then at some point be available for dating.

I am feeling a bit empty re. My spouse

Does anyone else feel this? How do you get the guys to finish your marriage?

Guts not guys

Why do you need him to finish it? If you aren’t happy you finish it.
You would also need to finish it before anything else with this new person.

Just seen you’ve corrected to guts 🙈

How long have you been married? Do you have any children together?

Are you just looking for The Exciting Part? because it doesn't last, by definition. The only way to keep experiencing the exciting part is to keep splitting up and finding someone else.

Merryhouse, yes married with kids.

Was wondering about that, whether I am wanting the exciting part.

Feeling a bit confused about what love is tbh. Went cold re.partner quite a while back and not sure whether want to go there again. Went cold due partners anger and work stress for both of us.

Trouble is having trouble remembering happy non stressy times. Feeling like I want a relaxed chilled partner, or not one at all.

It is ridiculous. It doesn't sound like you should be married and so I think you should simply tell your partner that it's not working for you and you'll be moving out and filing for divorce.

I mean - you say it's happened "a few times" - but what's most concerning is This time, I don't think it will go anywhere,.

Has it gone somewhere in the past? This sounds like you frequently fancy yourself in love with other people and have had affairs. That's not really what a marriage is about.

You need to ask yourself why you feel empty regarding your spouse. Is he a bad husband who treats you like crap, or are you just craving the excitement that goes with a new relationship?

I think you need to end your marriage

I haven't had any affairs, not sure why I put that.

Don't feel like he's the one for me. I just crave someone calmer, without drama, and more of a connection. Is that selfish? When I say I want divorce am told that I am being selfish. Just clamming up now as just feel a bit disconnected.

Anyone else in this position?
I think my partner's stress and anger has turned me off. And altho they are now being nice and calmer I am not sure I want to connect again with them. Does that make sense?

And now being role selfish when I mention divorce and the thought of selling the house and the stress of that makes me feel a bit overwhelmed.

Or will it pass?

I don't think covid,.homeworking and isolation are helping. It can't only be me I. This position can it?

I think I will start journalling as realising that writing this now is helping.

You're not selfish for wanting a divorce. If you're not happy on your marriage and divorce is the best fit for you then that's what you should do.
But be sure before deciding.
It's not selfish. You deserve to be happy op

What's your partners thoughts on your relationship? How much of this does he know?

If your partner is an angry man and you're not happy, be brave and make an end of it.

Life is too short to spend with someone who you've lost the love for and who doesn't treat you well.