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How many apologies can you accept?

7 replies

Itsnothing · 25/05/2021 01:52

I'm starting to realise that my relationship is pretty much made up of alot of "I'm sorry"s. It's got to the point where its lost its meaning now. Dp just says theres nothing more he can do but apologies whenever he hurts me or is in the wrong. Its not good enough and this point just pretty pathetic. The most recent thing is that he hasnt made any time for us to go out on dates but he is off seeing his friends. I'm starting to feel like a fool.

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Aquamarine1029 · 25/05/2021 02:14

A healthy relationship shouldn't be this hard, and it certainly doesn't require near constant apologies. Whatever it is you have with him doesn't work.

Raise your standards, get rid of him, and move on.

updownroundandround · 25/05/2021 06:49

You're getting apologies instead of consideration and respect.

He's obviously decided that he'd rather do/say whatever he likes and say 'sorry' afterwards, instead of giving you the time, respect and consideration you deserve (i.e not do whatever he wants, because he knows it will upset you) So you've actually 'hit the nail on the head' when you say 'It doesn't mean anything any more when he says 'sorry', because it's not sincere !)

He'll never change, cut your losses and dump this selfish arrogant ass.

DinosaurDiana · 25/05/2021 06:53

I’ve had this with my DH, he does what he thinks I won’t want/agree with , then says sorry. It’s lying.

AnyFucker · 25/05/2021 06:53

Saying sorry then doing it again is no apology at all

He clearly thinks he can do as he pleases and you will accept it. Keep on doing what you are doing and you will carry on getting the same treatment

unicornsarereal72 · 25/05/2021 07:02

I'm sorry are just words. If there is no action behind them they are meaningless. Time for change either from him. Or with your feet.

Shoxfordian · 25/05/2021 07:32

It’s just a cycle of him apologising and you forgiving him with no real change

If he was really sorry then he wouldn’t do it again

SummerWhisper · 25/05/2021 07:45

Genuine apology is followed by change. Otherwise it's a cover for someone who can't be arsed about you until you pull them up.

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