Lusting for red flag work colleague

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So hear it goes me and a work colleague started messaging at work, I work from home so I’d never seen him before. The banter we had was so much fun and I began to get excited for his txts. Our txts started to get flirty and before long we where sexting he said it was amazing and I wasn’t complaining. I asked him if he would like to meet me and he went all cold on me and was like WTF!

He ghosted me for a couple of days and I felt used but I couldn’t get him out of my head. This morning he messaged me and we started to have fun again (he hooked me back in) anyway we met up tonight we kissed and got hot and petty but am I flogging a dead horse ? He’s 38 with no baggage is he using me ? What’s your views confused .com

Well it sounds like he’s definitely up for sex and sexting with you but seems a bit less inclined to want anything more. What do you want? Some fun and flirting and sex stuff with him or to date and find a relationship? If it’s the first one then carry on but be aware it could get a bit awkward and messy if you work at the same place as this guy. If it’s the second then you need to say you want to date and see what he says.

The only way you can know really is to ask him?

Be clear what you want. Then tell him, and ask him if he wants the same. I don’t mean say “I want to marry you and have your babies”. But hooks-ups/FWB/casual relationship/serious one. Whatever it is you are looking for.

Ball’s in his court then.

U sexted before you even met??

Smh

Firstly, how do you know he has no baggage? Secondly, I think it sounds mostly sexual, but how is he using you if it’s all consensual?

If you didn’t want to sext or kiss and fondle you didn’t have to.

Do you know with absolute certainty that he has no ‘baggage’? It would not surprise me if he was married.

Sounds like he wants a shag rather than anything serious. If you’re up for that then go for it but I don’t think he’s up for anything long lasting. Men are quite straight forward and don’t blow hot and cold with women they genuinely want.