Ok bit of a long story but I will try to keep it short. I need an outsiders perspective!
Me and my partner don’t live together never have we can’t afford it!
we got together 3 years ago he has 2kids previous I had 1. Since covid he hasn’t been allowed to see his other 2 after nearly a year now he barely asks about them or to speak to them which I find odd!
We had a baby 2 years ago he got made redundant last year an I started a job since then he said he would be a SAHD however he has depression an anxiety and since last year we have seen him less an less. The days he was meant to help there was always something wrong or he felt out of sorts so to begin with I just let him get on with it as it was to do with his illness i just try to accommodate him an I wold try to find alternative childcare, however he was still able to see his mates just not help me. Fast forward a bit I put LG in nursery 3 full days he has her 2 but all he does is sits on his phone all day ignoring her then gets annoyed when she stars crying or misbehaving, he complains he has no money but is on UC an is always asking to borrow some for weed an also expects a lift home. He leaves as soon as I finish work. An we don’t see him on weekends. I don’t know how he can not care about his child he never asks about her. Recently she has been poorly but instead of asking is she ok he told me about his shit sleep an how I’ll he feels! I’m so exhausted I just don’t know what to do. Am I being unreasonable for being annoyed? Should I do more because of his depression? I just don’t know.