How do I get angry?!

[Namechangedidiot]

Please can someone kick me up the backside?!!

I'm so STUPID!!

How do I get angry with someone who keeps sleeping with me then dumping me? Why do I just cry and act like a pathetic idiot then do it all again? I feel like I'm going mad.

Should point out that I think getting angry is the only way I'm going to end things forever.

You don't need to get angry
Send him this and then block him from everywhere

Hi , I've decided I'm not enjoying this shit show of a relationship anymore
Been on and off more times than a whores drawers
Really hope you find someone more suitable for you who doesn't mind 2.5 mins of your sweaty huffing and puffing
Good luck , don't bother contacting me again - I'm off to something more fulfilling
X
Ps .. your shit in bed
Pps.. you need a dental hygienist
Ppps... the dog hated you

Feel free to edit any bits you don't think fit and enjoy your life with someone better/kinder/more respectful and more into you !

You need to get practical - you don't want to keep making the same mistake, so you need to cut off the ways he gets back into bed with you.

As pp says, tell him to fuck himself or variation thereof, burn your bridges with him.

Then block him on everything (and if you live or work somewhere where you are likely to see him, don't ever engage in conversation, just walk on by).

I agree you don't have to get angry. You just have to block him and channel your energy into YOUR life

You don't have to be angry, just fake it. Imagine you're your own best mate getting treated this way.

Thanks for all the suggestions.

If this were about my best mate, I'd be telling her he's a and to ditch him ASAP. This makes me even more annoyed with myself!!

We work together so will need to see each other sometimes.

It's a fairly long term "relationship" and some of it has been great but the last 6 months have been soul destroying.

Much harder if you work together. Would it be possible to move offices or even change jobs?

You are going round in circles with this person and the bond gets stronger every time which makes it harder to stay away. Make sure you are never alone with him, if he ever needs to speak to you then it has to be about work and not anything else and that there are witnesses around, spend your time with other coworkers during lunch.

@Namechangedidiot

Thanks for all the suggestions.

If this were about my best mate, I'd be telling her he's a and to ditch him ASAP. This makes me even more annoyed with myself!!

We work together so will need to see each other sometimes.

It's a fairly long term "relationship" and some of it has been great but the last 6 months have been soul destroying.

That should read: he's a knob.

Yes, I am contemplating leaving work.

I'm so messed up and am actually looking at going away for a very long break to try and clear my head of him.

Why are you accepting this???

Block him!

He's asked me out for a drink to "talk about things". Part of me wants to go to hear what he's got to say but the other part doesn't!

Oh don't go, guarantee you'll regret it.

Tell him "hey (dickhead), actually I don't think there's anything to discuss. We've had some nice times, but I've come to the end of the road with it. I will be keeping it strictly professional from now on, and won't be responding to any further contact outside work or unrelated to work matters. Thanks for your understanding."

You dont need to get angry, you just need to decide what you do and dont want for yourself and make choices towards that.

A simple 'I have decided our situationship doesn't work for me anymore. I wish you all the best and hope we can remain cordial in the workplace'.

Then just delete and block him on everything and avoid him in work as much as pos/never discuss anything not work relationship wise.

He has nothing to say to you. Or at least,nothing of truth or value. He is just like the snake from the jungle book trying to hypnotised you with his toxic words. Block and avoid.

You need to make your own closure with these situations. He wants to prolong your stress, not allievatiate it. Take control

You have nothing to discuss so don't go. His "discuss" will be to try and persuade you to sleep with him again! Don't waste time getting angry with him, just limit your interactions with him to purely what's needed at work.