Hey everyone,
I have read a couple of threads that have been simular to what I'm about the write but sometimes I just feel at the end of my tether and have to speak to someone other than my oh!
This all started when my mum found a lump on her rib about 4 years ago. Her anxiety was so bad she couldn't wait til the next day for a doctors appointment so went to the hospital to see a gp there. He said it was all find and probably just inflamed after a knock or something. It went away after a couple of weeks.
A year after that my mum found a breast lump. She found it while I was on holiday and waited another week to tell me after I came back. The way she said it to me was like she was so scared and in tears. I hugged her also in tears because I just knew what she would be like. She went to hospital again because she couldn't get an appointment for another week at the gp 🙄 . The doctor there wasn't very nice at all and told her it felt abnormal. She said do you think it could be cancer and he said yes!!! I was so angry and made a formal complaint because doctors are never suppose to do that without further checks.. it wouldn't be impossible for them to know. Then it was 2 weeks of anxiety and crying everyday and looking up thibgs on her phone (the devil)
She basically diagnosed herself as breast cancer before she had tests. Anyway she had an ultrasound and mammogram and it was all fine turned out to be a minor lump non cancerous.
I remember walking out the hospital qnd my other half asking her what she wanted for dinner to celebrate and she still wasent happy. I'd be jumping for the moon but it was like she couldn't belive she didn't have cancer.
Couple of weeks went passed she was a bit happier but then she started getting pain in her breast and then she started to think something else was wrong. We went doctors many times doctors checking her breasts in the end she went for another scan and everything was fine AGAIN!!
Another year after that my dad sadly passed away and things have just got worse and worse. There's been so much stress we have had to sell the house and move somewhere cheaper so she has savings because she doesn't work . My dad never wanted her to work and she never did.
She now has still got really bad menopausal symptoms and she also has vaginal atropy she has been diagnosed but she keeps looking on her phone searching up cancer and bad things it could be.
She needs to have estrogen pill for her symptoms or a patch but she won't have that because she's to scared of getting cancer.
All of her symptoms we can clearly see is to do with menopause and atropy but every little new symptom she has she thinks it must be something worse!
I suffer with vulvadynia and I have done for 10 years my medication isn't working as well as it did and stress makes my symptoms really bad. Even when she knows I'm having a flare up or a bad day she will come and tell me all her problems because she hasn't got anyone else to tell. It feels like a burden on me, hope that dont sound like I'm a horrible daughter. She had taken so long this time to get help which I think she needs counseling and she is very depressed and she has soo much anxiety. When we go out together she always seems to be up to it even if she has her problems that day but when I say why don't you go out or go and do this she will say her pains are really bad. Sometimes she says things I don't even know if she's telling the truth sometimes or just wants attention or to relate to what I've had . She has a lot of simular symptoms to me and it just annoys me as I'm suffered for it for years and never been like that with her. I just think a mum should take responsibility and talk to who she needs to to get help, especially for her to feel better but also for us to have a better relationship again.