Shall I meet my OLD? 😬

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Hi everyone,

I feel like a fucking teenager for even coming on here for this but I need advice.
Ok I met a guy on OLD but he lives 2hrs away from me. He seems really nice but I don't know if I should meet him because of the distance. I know it's not very far but what if I like him like him (teenager bit) I won't be able to just pop over or see him that much. I already like him and he seems really really nice but again what if I end up REALLY liking him?

With family, work and ££ I might be able to see him for an overnight stay maybe once or twice a month if I'm lucky.

I got out of a horrible relationship over a year ago and dated a bit but he's the first guy to give me butterflies in my stomach and that's without even meeting him. I've been talking to him for months and we have both been really patient.

For all I know I can meet him and we both hate one another but what if we don't?!
Shall I just stop talking to him and try to find love closer to home or go and just see what happens? I just don't want to cause myself any undue stress.

It might not sound it but I'm a capable working mother of 4 nearing on 40 😅
Thanks xx

It sounds like ideal set-up for me after a long relationship that had ran it's course years ago.
I'd meet up, see how you get on. Like you said it may not even lead to a 2nd meeting.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Cringeworthy saying of the day … you only regret the chances you didn't take. That's how I'm living my life from now on anyway.

Thank you and the weird thing is that IS how I've been living my life but this just seems to scare me for some reason.

Go for it!!. I chatted with a guy on OLD last September. He lives an hour away. I had been single for years & also a mother & 40! We met up after one week talking and I knew it was amazing from that first date. We make it work, video calls, phone calls & meet one night every weekend. If its right, you'll make it work!

Well you've both made me smile thank you. I'm just really scared and not that it won't work but that it will. I think I'm scared to be happy

Whet I met my partner on OLD he lived about 2 hours away. He travelled for work (which is how we matched) and so was able to come to mine about once a week. He also has no kids which meant he had more free time and less commitments to be able to travel. I'd drive up to his about once a month when I didn't have DS, so DP wasn't doing all the legwork...but he did do most of it!

Eventually he moved in with me and we're now very happily cohabitating. So, it can work but it really, really helped in our situation that DP was willing to travel, and ultimately move to another town, as I wasn't able to.

I do have to say though that you seem to be building this up quite a lot in your head. You say you've been talking for months but haven't met yet? That's a bit of a an OLD red flag for me...not that either of you are in any way dodgy or have done anything wrong but it's really easy to get over-excited and carried away over some bloke you haven't met yet, and might turn out to have BO or annoying habits, or you just might not click in real life.

If you're able to, I'd meet him just to see...but do try to lower your expectations a little bit. Good luck! I hope you do meet someone lovely after your past experience.

Have you had a video date? I think 2 hours to meet someone you know through messages only isn't a great idea but if you have met each other virtually that's better.