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Worried about DH's mental health

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Sims2Addict · 17/11/2007 20:03

My dh seems obsessed with the future, always asks what I think we will be doing in 5 years...10 years...what DS will be doing...what secondry school will be like for him etc.

Anyway he writes quite a lot so I didn't think anything of it when he started writing a little mini biography of DS, basically going on about when he was born, what tv programs he liked, when he started nursery etc but earlier on tonight I read his latest input and was shocked to see that he'd gone beyond DS's current age and had wrote out his future as if it had already happened. For instance he's wrote "when was 11, he started ** high school" and "when he was 16 he enrolled at college..." etc but not only that, he's written down things that probably won't happen such as "he joined a band when he was 13" etc

He's written it all down as if its already happened but DS is only 9.

Would this worry anyone else or am I over-reacting?

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whomovedmychocolate · 17/11/2007 20:08

That just sounds like normal fantasy to me. Does he sound worried when he talks about the future, or just that he's got it all planned out?

Teachers sometimes ask kids to write things in the past tense to practice it as well, are you sure that's not what it is?

getoffmystage · 17/11/2007 20:12

I would be a little concerned, but would probably just ask him about it asap to avoid geting worried unnecessarily yourself....

Mercy · 17/11/2007 20:19

My dad used to write things like that.(although he wasn't obsessed by the future in any other way afaik).

It might just be his way of expressing his hopes and fears. Is he a creative person generally?

3Ddonut · 17/11/2007 20:27

Sounds like he's just 'thinking it out' it may be a way of letting his brain have a rest by getting it on paper, maybe you could remind him that ds is 9 NOW and get him away from the desk and enjoying his son in the present (it's called that - 'cause it's a gift )

bigboydiditandranaway · 17/11/2007 20:42

Can you entice him into writting you something - a poem/love letter instead of this book on your son.

I personally would prefer more here and now than fantasy actually written down in a book about my childs future.

Failing that maybe give him some creative housework to do with your sonSorry, no maybe try planning xmas holiday fun instead

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