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Found dodgy calls and messages

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Nescafegold1234 · 24/05/2021 00:38

So an hour ago I asked DH to show me a photo on his work phone, a photo he took of DC today, and when he picked it up he seemed a bit dodgy about it. He kept it away from me until he found the said pic. Then he passed me the phone, I looked at the photo but then I saw there were a couple of unread messages. He grabbed the phone back, but I found it a bit strange.

I know his password so when he went to bed I looked. There were a couple of calls to a number that had no name on it, 2 of them were rejected on Friday evening, I assume because I was around. 10 mins before these calls, this person sent a message saying 'i can't talk right now, I'll call back when I'm free'. I put the number on my whatsup and the profile pic is of a very beautiful woman, but with a partner and a boy, about 5, 6 years old. I looked at the calls history and it looks like DH has been calling her every day since Wed. On Thu he kept asking me when I'm leaving the house with DC, almost like he was very keen for me to leave, and I looked at the Thu call history and he called this number literally the minute we went out. Then 30 mins later that day he texted me saying that he had an emergency and had to go into work, which even at the time I thought was very odd. I looked now into the Thu work history and there is nothing saying that he actually went into work at all.

How do I find out who this person is? I tried looking for this number on FB but couldn't find anything.

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Gemma2019 · 24/05/2021 13:13

It's great it came to nothing and you are satisfied by his explanation but really weird he was so keen for you to leave the house before he called someone about building work. Why the secrecy?! Don't know any tradesmen who would speak to someone every day about work months in advance either.

Nescafegold1234 · 25/05/2021 09:54

@Tal45 the most I'd have done was to ring the number anonymously and find out whether it was a woman or a man Smile. Good job I found out at 2 am, otherwise I'd not have slept that night Sad.

@Gemma2019 I think he wanted us out as DC is after him all the time, so he prefers us out when he makes phone calls or works, that's what I think. It was very odd though the way he kept encouraging me to go out all day, considering I had a rough night and was extremely tired, but I'm not going to overthink it anymore.

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poorbuthappy · 25/05/2021 09:57

Not entirely sure I'd believe that.

Nescafegold1234 · 25/05/2021 10:00

@messybun101 thank you, that's very good advice. I'd have done more digging anyway, I never react until I get enough evidence. It's strange how your mind works when your trust has been broken.

And thank you everyone for 'jumping' to help. Mumsnet is my invisible friend I can always turn to and find great advice, no matter what the issue is.

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tentosix · 25/05/2021 10:08

If he is eager for you to go out again, set your iPad of phone to record and hide it where he is most likely to call and it should pick up them speaking.

OccaChocca · 25/05/2021 10:22

So why all the secrecy and the long and convoluted story about having to go into work?

All sounds a bit odd to me.

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