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So I've realised my husband has been Gaslighting me for years.

He says he loves me. He doesn't otherwise he would not treat me this way sometimes.

Emotionally abusive sometimes yet the next day as lovely
as anything to me.

I need to leave. We need to have a break.

I honestly don't know what to do.

I have mental health issues and a medical team spoke with us. Now he's using that against me as they are all in apparent agreement with him over my mental health.

All I know is that my feelings are real.

It's absolutely a nightmare.

Please can someone advise. I am
safe . I just need a bit of a hand hold.

Thank you for being brave enough to post here this evening. I hope someone wiser than me comes along soon to offer helpful advice.

Hi there OP, we're going to move this thread to the Relationships topic, where we hope you will find some support.

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Hi op, I’m sorry this has happened to you. Do you have any support in real life to talk to? Anywhere you can go and stay? You need to get away from him

Thank you for your reply.

It's a mess. One minute he's wonderful and
the next he's mean and cruel and
shouty.

This latest episode is to do with my
Mental health apparently. That's the reason he gives for everything. He shouts at me , I respond, it's my mental health and if I tell
the children off over their behaviour, it's my
Mental health etc

I am not sure how much more I can take to be honest.

Have nowhere to stay .

Can't really
Talk to anyone in real life.

I haven’t done it but a lot of people on here mention the freedom programme. It helps you gather strength to break free. Can you have a look into that? He shouldn’t keep using your mental health like that he should be supporting you ! Do you have any money or access to money op ? Who owns the house?

Talk to your doctor

Talk to your MH person they’re bound by confidentiality

Your h is lying about the mh team agreeing with him... they ALL say shit like that

Do you have friends? Talk to them.

You will get free of him, you will get out and then you’ll start to feel better.

Don’t ever give up on you/yourself/ your kids get them and yourselves away from this man.

What do you mean he shouts that it’s your mental health? If medical professionals are all in agreement you’re suffering with your mental health then it is a good idea to accept the support of the mental health professionals. However you do not need to stay with someone you do not love and do not want to be with.