Upset

[ErinAoife]

I know I shouldn’t look at the social media of my ex husband but I can’t help it. His new girlfriend and himself post conversation and on one of them he called her something he used to call me and it really upset me as it is something from my native language, they both english so why he is using it for her. He always been a very private person but now he has everything public, even his ex girlfriend has complained about his attitude, he called her last week and was very creepy that she blocked him, she couldn’t understand why he contacted her when he was seeing someone else

He doesn’t sound great op does he? He’s with a new girlfriend being lovey dovey on Facebook but yet messaging an ex behind her back ! I would thank my stars I wasn’t with such a cheat. He probably knows you will look at his posts and the let make will upset you. He’s not nice.
Delete him off Facebook and be happy the cheat belongs to someone else

The pet name will upset you

Basically he's rubbing your nose in it.

Block him and stop torturing yourself.

He's an unimaginative creep. Thank goodness he's someone else's problem now. Block him.

I know but I still love him. I haven’t been myself since our separation and I don’t seem able to move on. I have lost all confidence in my myself which has affected my relationship with my kids and my work.

Visit the chump lady website. Your feelings are perfectly normal. There is something wrong with him. Get off Facebook—you love who you thought he was.

I know all my friends are telling me that but we were together 25 years so it is hard to forget about it. I am so scared, so tears all the time

How horrible for her - I bet she doesn't know he's using your recycled pet names on her. Feel sorry for them both OP you're much better off without him. You have to stop looking at his life and start concentrating on yours. Do some special things for you and your kids, have some fun, do something silly and have a laugh with them. Get lots of support if you can from friends and family. x

How long have you been separated?

Looking at SM will cause the heartache to continue. Write a list of all his negatives points and focus on yourself. Can you list 3 goals, activities, places of interest.

How horrible for her - I bet she doesn't know he's using your recycled pet names on her. Feel sorry for them both OP

agreed... he doesn't even have the imagination to give her a new personal unique pet name, he just uses yours... She'd be mortified and devastated if she knew 😂

Maybe you need some extra support right now? It might be worth speaking to your gp and maybe a counselling service. Your world has been turned upside down and it's natural to grieve it.

4 years we are separated, I did seek help with gp and counselling but I am worst than ever

Are you still in counselling? Maybe time to try a different form of therapy as you seem stuck emotionally.

Have you divorced? You've said separated a few times, so wondering if you haven't taken that step yet.

I am moving forward. Work is offering me to relocate to Ireland next year. A fresh start will do me some good

Fantastic ... grab it with both hands 🎉