Why does every txt have to be sexual

[TheOriginalNutty]

Argh !!!!

A bloke who comes into where I work passed me his number as someone else there had told him I was interested. All good there.

So I txt him and pretty much straight away the texting got flirty. That's fine I am not at all opposed to that as I love a bit of flirting but then it got more sexual and again I am no prude, far from it but come on, ask me a question about myself, something, anything but that. It's just so boring and predictable and disappointing.

No wonder I have been single for so long.

Oh and I wasn't being rude I was stating a fact and they know I think that.

*when you’re the one giving your number out to a randomer at work...
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So because she's given out her number she should just suck it up? She's getting what she deserves?

That's the implication you're making there @Flowers500 and it's a bit of a low blow tbh

Good to see internalised misogyny is alive and well!

@Flowers500 thank you for bringing us the patriarchy’s latest approved opinions. 👍

I was going out last night and he asked for a pic of my ass. I don't know if he meant clothed or naked but either way I said no and he said let's see if you change your mind after a few cocktails

Yuk. Neither nice nor safe in my book. He's telling you who he is.

And yes, porn addled chancer.

He has obviously decided that you are abit fast?? These neanderthals love to jump to the conclusion that most women are desperate to service them. Block this clown and move on.

Yuk. Block this sex pest.

Women have sexual appetites too, don’t we?

Yes indeed. In my case for men that I am both committed to and fancy and in a reciprocal relationship with. Not with immature wankfoxes who send pictures of their willy and arse and don't engage in proper conversation.

Flirty is ok but not full on sex stuff before you've met, it usually means that's all they want but luckily you recognise that OP. It's really depressing for me that a lot of men just don't want to seem to get to know you any more, they just want cheap unimaginative sexting, and then start pressuring for pics. When did they stop wanting something more meaningful?

I was going out last night and he asked for a pic of my ass.

What. A. Plonker.

Just block him. Why bother wasting any time on such fuckers?

Men are basic. Most men are very very basic. Base.

there is Porn is online.. I'd suggest he google it..

Sounds like a loser - don’t bother. As soon as a men starts going that route just ditch them.

Please don’t lower your standards to nothing!

@Lovelydiscusfish

Oh OK, from OP’s updates he does sound rubbish.....

See, personally I don’t mind some sexual messages to a degree (would give them out, take them and respond to them) so I don’t think the sending of sexual messages is per se wrong. Women have sexual appetites too, don’t we? That said I wouldn’t want it to be wall to wall sexual messages, with no getting to know me either......

But obviously it’s important to find the right match, and somebody who strikes the right tone and balance, FOR YOU.

Of course women also have sexual appetites, but this isn't flirty sexy talk or trying to make her feel sexy/turned on... he's just asking to see pictures of her ass.

Yeah, I've had a few of these. It says nothing about you and everything about them...

Me: Hi....
Him: Here's a picture of my knob. Here's another. Here's one in the shower, here's one from a different angle, here's one hanging out of my jeans. Here's one on the Big Dipper. Here's one at the Natural History Museum. Can I have a pic?
Me: Err....No.

AT LEAST they're showing you who they are from the start and not schmoozing you into believing they're actually decent people.

He's after one thing - best body swerve unless you want only sex
How did you get on at work this week @TheOriginalNutty

In fact, it will forever be mankind's greatest mystery just how obsessed most men are with their penii and how disinterested (mostly) we are.
They're very much 'much of a muchness' xe

Sounds like he's not interested in you as a person, he's just after a shag.

It makes your heart sink doesn't it? I've known a guy for years who seemed quiet but nice enough, used to message me now and then. Then one time he asks how I am a few months after my mum's passing (which he knew about). I say ok blah blah considering. His next message I kid you not was "do you shave down below?". He couldn't understand why that annoyed me! I'm no prude either but for goodness sake!! That's every level of wrong. Idiot.

He's obviously just after a shag. I'd block or tell him to 'do one'

@PurpleSapphire that’s just awful
I think these men must be so desperate for sex, probably because they can’t get any ( wonder why )
It’s not sexy to any woman I know to have these conversations, without some level of proper conversation and connection first.

I said no and he said let's see if you change your mind after a few cocktails

What a sleaze bag he is. Thinks if a woman gets drunk she's more likely to send him pics/have sex with him.
Red flag.
Bin.

Time to block.

Any bloke who turns messages sexual that quickly, is looking for a shag and nothing else. And I bet you're not the only woman he's messaging.

I was texting a guy once, but we hadn't yet had a date. He started asking me about sex toys and butt plugs. I said no thanks. The tirade of abuse I got was staggering. Called me a fucking bitch and said he didn't want to date a maiden aunt etc. Really frightening. He was so angry

I'd definitely tell the person who recommended him what he's like.