Hello everyone! Would love some advice. I’ve been with my husband for approx 9 years now and we have a 2 year old daughter and I’m pregnant and due October 2021.
Since I’ve had my daughter my sex drive has slowed down and I’m finding it really difficult to be intimate with him. On one hand I still feel a slight need to be physical but on the other hand I feel slightly repelled by him touching me.
I think it’s partly due to some really horrible and emotional arguments we have been having and each time these happen they make me feel less close to him. Our arguments are focused on money - as this is an area we are struggling with, his drinking (as sometimes not all the time I feel he drinks excessively) and our time management (we work a lot and have very little time off together).
I do love him but worried I am loosing the physical attraction. I’m doing my best to rekindle this but I feel I have such a build up of resentment due to these awful emotional arguments I find it hard to get close to him afterwards. I find him very irritating & I’m not sure how to change this. We do have lovely moments where we laugh, have fun and in these moments I feel happy and in love.
I want to be with him but I’m struggling with my conflicting emotions. I do realise we need more time together. Any words of advice would be appreciated thank you for taking the time to read this.