I am new to OLD. I signed up for several dating sites and matched with the same man on 2 of them about a month ago. I'm feeling frustrated with how things are going but I've never dated strangers before so I don't really know how it's supposed to progress. I think he acts as if he isn't interested in me between dates, but when we're together he seems very attentive and polite and he says all the right things. Experienced OLDers, please give me some perspective about this timeline.
Background: His profile says he is looking for a serious relationship and he wants children. We are both in our early 30s. He is from the USA and arrived here about 2 months ago.
Mid April: Matched on dating site 1, neither of us messaged the other.
End of April: Matched on dating site 2, I messaged him.
2nd May: Met up for a hike and socially distanced lunch.
7th May: Went out for dinner.
13th May: Went to a museum and lunch.
14th May: Spoke on the phone.
22nd May: We were supposed to meet but he messaged in the morning saying he might not come and he would confirm in the afternoon. I told him not to bother and cancelled it. He was extremely apologetic but I think he had double booked himself.
He has insisted on paying for our meals and drinks every time. We have hugged but not kissed. There has been virtually no contact between dates. He does not write me messages and when I write him messages he reads them and waits for hours before replying. He is still logging into his dating profiles but I do not know if he is going on dates with anyone else.
This isn't going anywhere, is it?