No sex for two years

[Strawbsandcream2]

I feel stupid and embarrassed for writing this and so so so upset and frustrated.

It’s been over two years since I last had sex when my last relationship broke up. That had lasted a year. Prior to that I hadn’t had sex for 3 years.

Ive only had sex with two people in my life. I’m 34 years old. And I miss sex. I’ve never even had particularly good sex apart from with my last partner and I just feel so upset about it because I feel I won’t have it again.

It’s so hard to just meet someone to sleep with- I find that anyway. OLD doesn’t do it for me, I don’t want to sleep with just anyone. But someone who’s clean, has some good conversation and is attractive shouldn’t be that hard but it is for me.

I just have this unbearable sadness that for me this is it and I feel so desperately lonely and sad. I just miss that physical intimacy so much.

You like swimming - wild swimming is really big now - there must be groups or clubs around you. Go jump in the Serpentine with a bunch of people.

I see someone who has already linked to meetup. You will find lots of activities there and many of the people who go will be single. Don't rely on your friends to help you find someone. You need to go out yourself to activities where you will meet people.

I'm 48 and haven't had trouble meeting men and I'm not all that either. But I go out and meet people and talk to them and if I like a guy I ask him for a drink.

Seriously OP - you are WAY too young to give up on yourself. You just need to take some control back.

It's been over 2 years for me too

Im blaming covid, social distancing and the fact I was shielding for most of it.

Yes it sucks but as things start to ease I'm hoping that it won't be long.