My mum and I haven't always had a brilliant relationship but lately she has really been winding me up. I am grateful that she helps me out, especially if money is tight, and she can babysit, but I really can't stand her treating me like she does. With dd's birthday and Christmas coming up, money is going to be exceptionally tight for me, and Ive only brought her one present for each so far. I was doing to buy her a buggy from ELC but then my mum went ahead and brought it for me. Fair enough I couldn't have got it with dd with me, but then she rang me up earlier saying she's going to wrap it up and leave it at her house.
I am not just being picky over this situation, but it's just one of many. She always takes over, even though I'm on my own two feet living on my own with dd. I was quite down the other day as I had virtually no money, and my mum could tell something was up with me. I told her it was nothing, and then she snapped at me, and all of a sudden thinks I don't need her help and that she won't bother with me. Am I the only one who thinks this is rather unreasonable? I know my mum is there for me to talk to when I need to, but sometimes I like to keep my own problems to myself as she can't always help or I would rather deal with it myself. And I don't want to feel like I have to always rely on her for help.
I dread it when she comes and it's like a relief when she goes. If the house is a mess, I won't hear the end of it. If I look a mess, I won't hear the end of it. If dd looks a mess, I won't hear the end of it. She really pes me off sometimes. She's always round, and I can't do what I like because I have to make sure I allow her to come see dd, otherwise she'll be on about me not needing her and appreciating her etc. If I tell her how I feel, she won't speak to me, and I have no-one else I can turn to help (as selfish as that sounds) but plus she's my mum, and although she does pss me off I do still want her to be around, just not overtaking my life.