Hi everyone, I can't work out whether I am being overly sensitive or not and would appreciate some advice.
A bit of background: I was severely anorexic from the ages of 13-25 and 2 weeks from death at one point. I am now 30. I am at a healthy weight (minimum healthy but still a massive achievement for me!) and doing as well as I ever have with food - eating meals out, allowing others to cook for me, eating a variety of food, joining in with social eating etc. I have created a happy, healthy life for myself with lots of friends and a good relationship with my family.
My new boyfriend and I got together about 5 weeks ago and have been seeing each other 2/3 times a week. I told him on our second date about my history for context as I have had multiple hospitalisations and therefore time out of school and work, and it also explains why I only began having adult relationships at the age of 26. I felt it was also important to mention to give him a 'get out clause' early on as, whilst I am not actively restricting food or underweight at the moment, it is something I have to manage every day - the thoughts remain, I just choose not to act on them. At the time he was very understanding.
We eat dinner and breakfast together whenever we see each other and I have been extremely flexible in terms of where we eat/what we eat etc - he chooses most of the time and I am happy to go along with it (unthinkable to the 'anorexic' me!).
Last night he made some comments about me being 'thin' and also said 'you don't really enjoy food, do you?' Given that he knows about my history I found these comments insensitive and I am quite upset as I feel that I am doing really well to be living my life as I am, especially as I had been told by numerous consultants in the past that I would never recover. I DO enjoy food but it is not as simple as it is for other people who enjoy food as I have a constant background chatter in my mind of 'you shouldn't have eaten that', 'that was greedy', 'you had x for dinner so you'd better not have breakfast tomorrow' etc etc.
AIBU for being upset by his comments? I don't want to make a bigger issue out of this than I need to but I also do feel quite upset and disappointed, especially as I believe I am doing well at the moment.