well he's filed for divorce!

[TLV]

he saw his solicitor last friday to get papers drawn up, i saw solicitor early in the week and I've already heard from mine! but not his, I've cut ties with him for the time being to get my head round things (apparently he isn't well at the moment, oh dear!!!! ) but I need to sort myself out, family members taking dd to him and bringing her back. I'm quite angry at the fact he's not even had 3 hrs with her today when he could have kept her all day, at the moment i don't even want to see his face.

(((((((((())))))))))he is a todge bag x

I know!!!! i'm actually getting counselling for all this and tbh am feeling at little better day by day but my counsellor (sp?) thinks he's not got a clue about what he is doing, surely I should have heard something from his solicitor?

I'm going through a very similar situation to you TLV and like you swing from hatred of what he's doing to the family to just wanting to be back in the marriage. My DH too is adamant he doesn't want me and it doesn't help when everyone says he's wrong in his head for walking out. He doesn't spend any time with his kids (they are older than yours but hell, they still want to spend time with their dad)and I just hate him for being so cold towards them. Sad thing is he doesn't even realise he's being like this.

Enough about me, I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone and although I don't get much chance to post on here please remember that there are people out there who totally understand what you are going through. We will get through this nightmare eventually and life will be good again. We deserve so much better than to waste our emotions on men who can switch from being a loving partner to such selfish, hurtful gits. Be strong for your DD and beat the crap out of your pillow at night.

thank you I just want him to look back in a few months and regret it

TLV - he probably will. He's throwing away everything, love, children, security....

he must be bonkers!

TLV - so do I! I just hope he makes a right tit of himself and in a few months really regrets what he's given up. What is it these men want?? It's almost too cliche for words except these are real lives that are being wrecked.
Kd73 you echo want all my friends have said but he just can't/won't see it.
Going to bury myself in a big plateful of homemade shepherds pie and an enormous glass of white! Hell I've lost enough weight over the last month I deserve a binge!

I've not spoken to him since wed, I've still not heard anything from his solicitor yet, got caught in the pouring rain after taking dd to gps for cough and I ended up in tears on the way home feeling totally alone, i'm probably wearing my family down by talking about him all the time. I was never perfect in the relationship and I definitely had my moments but it really breaks my heart that someone else will end up with him. His mum is coming round for a cuppa later which I suppose is good. I'm really scared about where me and dd will end up (even tho he says he will make sure we don't end up in a hovel) everything seems so uncertain and I just want to break down and cry

Did you sort out the house deeds?

he has offered me more than half the proceeds from the sale which will be done through the solicitors. I just keep feeling up and down about things