Self conscious about body.

[Silvermockingbird]

So this could also be an AIBU. I’m in a new relationship after a number of years being single. Everything is going good so far. The only problem is I am so self conscious about my breasts. After a few kids/breastfeeding/weight gain/weight loss ect, my boobs look awful. I’m at the point where I can’t even bare to look at them. It hasn’t been a problem being single because obviously nobody sees them so their at the back of my mind, but now I feel as though it’s going to ruin the relationship. I don’t want to take my top off whatsoever during sex. I trust my partner, I’ve confided him about it and he’s been understanding- told me whenever I’m ready and it doesn’t matter to him what they look like. I just can’t get past it. I feel as though I’ll never be ready.

I guess my AIBU is would it be fair to my partner if I NEVER got fully naked in front of him.. I try to remind myself their just a body part ect but whatever I try to think or do I just can’t let go of it. Thank you in advance

I'd aim to just have and keep bra on when it comes to it
Eventually if you feel comfortable you'll just relax when you see how he will not care and love them anyway
Promise you .. not many of us have perfect boobs !

To put it bluntly, I’m sure he’s seen saggy boobs before. I don’t think your boobs will be as shocking as you’re making them out to be. I think you’ve built it up in your head, but in the moment once you get going I’m sure you’ll forget about it.

For example, I have stretch marks on my bum that I’d rather not be there but it’s never stopped me. I promise you’ll be fine.

And ironically I have quite perky boobs but most men are more interested in my bum!

Men adore bodies in every size, wobbly or not. But I can report the thing they love most is confident women. None of us are perfect and Im sure he's more concerned about what you think about his imperfections too. But please dont ever worry about how you look. You'll always be perfect in someone's eyes. Boobs float about in all directions, well they do in my world Your man sounds lovely. Just take a deep breathe and go for it! Please be brave!

Go onto love honey and get yourself something nice to wear.

Lingerie on any woman 🔥

A man's ideal night is a naked woman. Doesn't matter about any wobbly bits 💐💐💐💗

I lost a lot of weight (6 stone ish, put about 3 back on though!) And I have spaniels ears for boobs and some weird jelly formation where my stomach should be! With the weight loss I gained a lot of confidence which I still have even though I'm heavier again, I have never had so much interest from men in my life (older, younger, skinny, fat all sorts ) Not one of them seems to care how big I am, they all comment on my confidence.... I'm married but I could take my pick if I wanted to so just enjoy the moment, if you don't make a big deal about your so called flaws I'm damn sure he won't even notice!

I know how you feel OP. I was pretty body confident before and happy to be naked in front of my husband, since having our daughter 8 months ago though he hasn't seen me fully naked, I can barely bare to look at myself. I feel even when I loose all the baby weight (have just over a stone to go now) I won't be as my boobs and stomach look awful :( it's hard but I feel more attractive with something covering up a part of me now

I'm glad he has been understanding, I hope he would never pressure you to take it off, however that being said boobs are boobs and I'm sure he would love them in every single way!

There are many options you could try instead of being completely naked buy some cute bedroom outfits very sexy and very empowering.

Personally my husband loves a nice baby doll over being completely naked all the time, thinks they are HOT tmi I know

Invest in some good sexy lingerie something that makes you feel comfortable and desirable.

When you are confident, the sex is so much more enjoyable for both of you, so I am sure he would rather you covered and confident then exposee and insecure.

The more confident you get the less material your lingerie/outfits will need.

Maybe even a little fancy dress could be thrown in the mix