Getting remarried

[Festivalgirl83]

DP and I have been together for 3.5 years having both been married before (he has been divorced for 7 years, mine currently going through). I have 2 DC and DP has one.

We moved in together last year and in the very early days of our relationship I always said I'd never re marry. However, my feelings have gradually changed and although I'm not saying I want it straight away or next year, I would like to at some point in the future.
This conversation came up naturally last night and when I asked if he ever thought he'd marry again he was pretty much no way but then said never say never 🤨.

I can't explain why but I feel really upset today and have cried a little. I love this man and I'd never give an ultimatum like I think his ex pretty much did but I also feel upset and second best that he must have loved her enough to marry but not me even though he told me last night he isn't sure he ever really loved his ex wife 🤔.

Has anyone ever been through similar?

My now exh was married and divorced before he met me, but I went from being not bothered about marriage (divorced parents yadda yadda) to feeling like you describe - like it set the bar of his feelings and somehow meant less if he didn't do that with me. But, I'd never been married. We're now divorcing and I currently feel I'd never do it again. Not least because I don't want to entwine finances ever again. But I can relate to how you feel

Oh, and my exh did say he didn't want to get married again. I should have heeded that!

I don’t think you should even be contemplating marrying someone when you’re not yet divorced.

@premium77

I don’t think you should even be contemplating marrying someone when you’re not yet divorced.

I'm not if you read my post...I just said it's something I would like in the future.

I understand you feeling a bit upset but when you first met you said you'd never marry again.

Now you're thinking maybe. He's said he doesn't think he would, but never say never. I think you're both not ready for marriage yet but it could be something you'd both come round to in time

Not everyone wants to do it again. For some, breaking their vows makes them not want to do it again as they are meant to be for life. For others it’s because of financial aspects or because they have children.