New lady, hopefully. Hard to get, busy or uninterested?

[New1ySing1e]

Hi all,
I'd really appreciate some advice please.
So I'm recently out of a 17+ yr relationship. The last two years were a crushing 'love you, but not in love' crisis, which sadly had to end.

Pre break up a lovely woman seemed.to show an interest in me at my sports club. I really wanted to approach her but was still trying to work through things with nowex.

I did feel this new lady was out of my league, but she had smiled so glowingly, I couldn't stop thinking about here. So forward wind a year i decided to follow her (private account) on Instagram. She accepted friend request. We then chatted a bit in club. Nothing much, but nice.
So the other day she gives me a wave and a huge smile, not the kind you'd give just anyone I think, so I thought she must like me so I'll DM her and ask if we can meet. A fairly simple message, just 'i'd really like to get to know you'. she agreed to meet, although not planned.

So I asked for her number a little while later. Later on I followed up with some get-to-know-you chat.

First time she took a day to respond. And is yet to respond with her number.
Being a single.mum she must be super busy. But I see her online later in evening.

So is this playing hard to get, too busy, not interested? Obvs she agreed to meet for coffee is a positive. So I am a bit confused.

I am really.keen. her smile is just amazing.. I don't want to pressure her or scare her off.

But I want to tell her her smile is amazing to me. Should I open up or keep clam?

I’d take it slow to begin with. People work at different speeds. I’d wait for her to send her number now, if she wants to.

I know waiting is hard but it’s all you can do really. Good luck!

Umm, I think you should back off. You sound creepy with this all chat about her smile. Calm it. You need to leave the ball in her court now.

Thanks. Yeah. I know you're right.

So is this playing hard to get, too busy, not interested?

Nobody but her could possible know this so stop trying to guess!

If I'm honest, even if I wuite liked I guy I would find a message about something physical like my smile off-putting and intrusive so it would then be a no from me.

It would make me think the person saying it was very intense and also prone to sort of love bombing / performative cringey romance!

I'm sure someone else will come along to tell me they would like it though, that's just me personally - and how my friends would all feel too.

Oh golly. You sound very over-keen.

If you told me my smile was amazing to you, then I'd be slightly freaked and not want to meet up alone.

You keep repeating that she smiled glowingly but you've built up a picture in your head from this and what sounds like barely any conversation other than superficial. Slow right down. You don't know her at all. She might be nothing like you think she is.

And if you persist you'll put her off.

Maybe she's not happy about giving out her number just yet. Just be normal and don't pressure her or play silly mind games. She's allowed to be online in the evening and not be at your beck and call if she wants to. Analysing her behaviour this early into a potential relationship is a bit creepy. Just do your own thing, be happy, smile when you next see her and perhaps remind her of the coffee thing but otherwise just get on with your life. Otherwise she will sense your neediness. Meant in the nicest possible way though and I hope it works out for you. (BTW I agree don't make a big thing about her amazing smile.. it's a bit corny like previous posters have said). If you want to give compliments don't make it all about her appearance otherwise she'll just think you're as shallow as the next guy. Good luck!

Ok, so I'm quite a smiley person, and people tell me that I have a lovely smile; this has caught me out a number of times throughout my life. I'll give a big huge smile to anyone and everyone, men, women, dogs, small children; I don't think about it and it's just how I'm wired. On a number of occasions I've been put in quite uncomfortable situations where guys have assumed I must be really interested in them and have come on quite heavy. It's completely blindsided me; last time was at work and I KNOW I wasn't flirting (I wasn't remotely interested) but clearly some wires got crossed and some signals misread.

She might be interested, she might not, only she knows; but I'd take it really slowly until you have a bit more of an idea. I know you like her but you seem WAY too keen. There's a danger even if she is interested your intensity might scare her off.