Narcissist Ex and other woman - quick house sale - why?

[KylaKurden]

Abusive, narcissist ex left me for OW about 7 years ago. They bought a house together. It was on the market for 1 day and is now sold. I phoned Estate Agent (pretending to be interested) and he said ‘it’s off the market, they needed to sell quickly’. I know I shouldn’t care - but - have they split up??

When did they buy it? When did it go on the market? And, why do you know? Are you still in contact with your ex?

About 5 years ago. I know through friends. Not in contact, I get an occasional message which I ignore.

If you don't care, why ask? Many reasons as to why.

Urghh - I just want some karma! I know I shouldn’t care, but I do care.

You're giving them a lot of head space.

Maybe they told the estate agent that an ex might call them being nosy about something that's none of her business.

Seriously op, karma isnt real. Shit things happen to good people all the time and if anything, bad people have happier lives because they dont care about anyone but themselves.

If it helps, Narcissists are never happy with what they have. They always want something else.

It is none of my business, I know. Sigh! I just pretended I was a house buyer. I feel quite shit really. Stupid, I’ll forget about it. I’m well rid.

You called the estate agent!? Bloody hell. Op he wasn’t nice to you. Please speak
To a professional about this.

Definitely step away from the whole karma thing. A) it's bollocks and b) you need to get a place of 'meh' about anything to do with him. I'll not deny that if I ever did hear that ex and ow had split up I'd be bloody amused but I don't care at all. Step away.

I see where you're coming from, I'd be interested too. I suppose you've tried Facebook, asking around friends. And well done on getting rid of an abusive bastard.

It's been 7 years since he left, you need to disengage from thinking about him / checking on what he's up to etc. It cannot do you any favours at all, there's no good that can come of it.

Even if they split up, he could just start seeing someone else who from the outside you think is a catch and then you'll feel pissed off he's landed on his feet etc. The only way to move forwards is absolutely no direct contact or indirect checking.

Have you had any counselling? This feels like it's quite raw for you considering how many years ago it was, while I appreciate it must have been very traumatic, calling the estate agent is not healthy or normal behaviour. It could be really beneficial for you to have some therapy.

They’ve split up/ are expecting a baby soon/ just landed a fancy new job abroad/ lost everything in the pandemic and are skint/ have seen their dream home for sale elsewhere/ have won the lottery/ have had an argument with the next door neighbour/ have been burgled and want rid/ they’ve discovered something buried in the garden..... you just have absolutely no idea what’s going on with them. Move on, OP - you are better off forgetting about them completely.