How many times did you have your heart heartbroken before you met the one?

[starsstars123]

I had my heartbroken about 8 months ago, it still now hurts sometimes and I feel so silly.

How many times have you had your heartbroken or until you found love?

Twice. But also two bad relationships that ended where I wasn’t heartbroken.

Met DH when I was 35. Had DS when I was 39.

Hope you feel brighter soon OP x

Don't believe in the one anymore, it all went a bit pear shaped for me but I thought I was with the one for 18 years then he left me, not actually that heart broken as I found another relationship 6 months later amazing chemistry but only lasted 18 months again I can't say heart broken sounds a bit dramatic but disappointed and getting over a bad relationship, goodness knows if I'll ever find another one to stay with a long time but can only hope.

The One for me is the one who broke my heart the most.

Shattered to tiny pieces twice and 'just' broken once. But I bounced back quickly from shatter 1 and the 'just' broken. The 2nd shattering took a long time to get over. Didn't go near a man for 3 years and the next relationship was my now husband.

Twice properly, but had many online dating ventures that ended in tears. After 4 years of awful online dating experiences, I really thought I would never find someone. I opened Tinder one day to delete my account (for like the millionth time!) and matched with my now partner.

People always told meet I'd meet someone when I least expected it, and while that was true in the end for me, it was completely unhelpful at the time...

Twice and met my husband several years later 🥰

I was with my ex for 14 years, it broke my heart when we split up, I only felt ready to date last year so I haven't had the joy of having my heart broken again yet and I don't want my heart broken again so I'm being extremely cautious.

3 times. One totally broke me and tbh I'm still not completely over him 15 years later. Don't get me wrong, it's doesn't interfere with my life or anything, but he's always somewhere in the back of my mind.

I'm not sure I have ever. Used to get upset about relationships ending when I was young and was initially devastated when my first proper bf ended it but it didn't last that long. We've kept in touch ever since and he really wasn't the one for me. With subsequent long term relationships I was always the one to end it because I realised they weren't "the one". Maybe just picked badly.... Still with the man I met at 28.... Only one I still yearn for a bit is his immediate predecessor, whom I also keep in touch with - there's still a connection there, for us both, I think.

Like @RLEOM the One for me also broke my heart the most. Never have really recovered from it many years later

@starsstars123 I know you are looking for reassurance, but this is not some survey that you can run to determine on average people get their hearts 2.4 times broken before meeting the one. The whole premise of your question is wrong and wouldn’t help you one bit. Even those that are currently with “the one” may not grow old together. I don’t want to make you feel bad and I know you are looking for success stories but my advice to you is to not too much focus on finding the one, but go on dates and have fun getting to know people

Twice, first one broken but salvaged an amazing friendship we have to this day out of the whole sorry mess. Second I was shattered, I'll forever live with the emotional scars left from that one.

Met my husband a few years later.

It takes time OP and you don't have to "get over it" you just need to learn to move beyond it to allow you to live your life.

Twice. And have never met anyone else. Been single for almost a decade now.

Meeting the one doesn't mean they will never break your heart. I think there are many 'one's' out there, but maybe none are forever

I'm 46.

Never loved. Never Been loved. Never had my heart broken 🤷🏻‍♀️

Two proper heartbreaks and I never did find the one.

Far too late for me now, so I'm resolved to be happily single and increasingly eccentric.

I’ve had a lot of short failed relationships but never met “the one”. I don’t believe in the concept of there being one person only. I’ve never met anyone I’ve had a healthy, long and fulfilling relationship with and expect I’ll probably be single forever

No such thing as "the one". I wish people would stop peddling that delusion.

@TedMullins

I’ve had a lot of short failed relationships but never met “the one”. I don’t believe in the concept of there being one person only. I’ve never met anyone I’ve had a healthy, long and fulfilling relationship with and expect I’ll probably be single forever

Likewise.

I started a thread earlier on similar. I have taken a couple of lovers. Can highly recommend it - all the good stuff none of the shit

Twice. Then I decided raising DS was a better use of my time.

I’m not averse to that idea @PaperMoonshine, just quite enjoying being on my own and doing my own thing right now! I’m sure there’s someone (or ones) out there to fulfil some needs should I require 😂

Once. Met my ex at 16, horrible decade long toxic mess of a relationship, most definitely emotionally abusive. Left swearing to stay single forever met my now DH at 27 and never been happier. It gets better.

"But if in your heart you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears."

[from Kahlil Gibran, "On Love"]

Twice. I don't know if I believe in the one. But I've been happily married for 28 years to a wonderful man.