Hi all,
Quick background...partner and myself have recently split after more than 10 years, keeping things as amicable as possible (have house together, no kids, not married) as we really were best friends and hope this continues...
New girl has come on the scene (early twenties so about 6-7 years his junior) and appears smitten with him. She definitely has more feelings for him than he does for her and he has tried to ask for space and to be friends whilst he sorts his head out. I have met her and happy to be friendly/amicable with her however can see her spoilt, bitchy, manipulative side as an outsider.
She has now dropped the bombshell yesterday that she found out she was pregnant (apparently her contraception was affected by other medication she is on) and went ahead and terminated the pregnancy last week. He is absolutely devastated. She has been very open with him the past couple of months she has been in his life and he is finding it very hard to understand that she would not have told him/discussed before making this decision. He is really beating himself up about whether:
a: she went through this and made the decision entirely by herself, he has longed for a family and she knew this. Although not an ideal situation but he would have definitely stuck by her and given the relationship a go for the sake of the child (I understand this is not an ideal situation but he would never have ran away from his responsibilities)
b: she has made this all up - things in his eyes just don't seem to add up and he would like answers to get his head round it
I have never been in this position and understand completely how hard and devastating this topic is for many and hope this doesn't come across as insensitive but could really do with advice/opinions of how I can help him and make him see how a girl may feel in her situation. He is a great guy and I hope only good things for him, just want to be there for him and give advice and not come across as being nasty about her.
Hopefully this makes some sense, feel like I have waffled on enough!