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something ain't right

7 replies

somethingaintright · 03/11/2004 13:11

excuse the change of name, In the last week DH has been going round to his friends place every day, he hasn't had contact with this male friend for a long time, they used to phone every other every 6 months or so, suddenly he is there all the time. He has gone out and not told where he is going, when questioned he was at XXXXs house. I have phoned him and heard this mates new gf and her kids in the background but couldn't hear the mate, and he is very loud, I would have heard him. Something just ain't right but don't want to confront DH in case I am wrong.

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sweetheart · 03/11/2004 13:14

Why don't you just say very casually that he seems to have been seeing this friend alot recently - ask if everything is OK with his friends home life!!!

zephyrcat · 03/11/2004 13:14

did you phone the mates house or dh's mobile?

coppertop · 03/11/2004 13:19

Ask dh to invite his friend and family to come over to your house one evening, eg for tea or just to visit. If dh is keen then there's probably nothing to worry about.

beachyhead · 03/11/2004 13:46

phone when DH isn't there and ask to speak to old mate, then if he doesn't live there anymore, then you can be worried and if he does, you can just say, I was looking for dh and he said he might be there.....

Beetroot · 03/11/2004 14:23

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nightowl · 04/11/2004 01:13

do you know this mate has a new gf? have you met her, has the mate told you this or have you only heard this from dh? did you phone your dh's mobile or the mate's landline? do you know where this mate lives? can you discreetly check dh's mobile bill? or his email if he has one? has he suddenly become secretive with his mobile phone? sorry a lot of questions i know but i cant think of anything really at present. if you know where this friend lives perhaps you could find a reason to "turn up" there? it does sound strange that he has suddenly started going there so often but on the other hand if he was with a woman and you rang his phone surely he would have gone outside where you couldnt hear her and her kids? if he is up to something hes making it too obvious imo. i surpose there is reverse psychology but men dont usually do that...hmmmm...

WigandRobe · 04/11/2004 20:00

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