Is it too soon?

[Pinkie98]

So I broke up with my ex over a month ago. Generally, I'm a mentally strong person and I've had therapy. I feel very happy, at peace and calm since the breakup. The other night I made a dating profile, not really in the hopes of dating but more so to make friends. I matched with a guy and we have a good connection already and are planning to meet up soon. My question is, am I rushing? Is it too soon after the break up to be talking to someone? Have any of you guys started dating shortly after a breakup and have it work out for you?

Depends on how long I stayed in the old relationship where it was poor and I wanted out. If say a year, I'd probably be ready to get dressed up and go on a date.

I don't think it's too soon.

You aren't necessarily looking for something serious, you're broadening your social circle, meeting new people, giving yourself the freedom of living the single life.

I think it's great to meet new people, some might become long term friends (a few of the people I met old did), meeting people and seeing what's out there is interesting.

Think it depends on the nature of the breakup. If you detached emotionally long ago then you're maybe ready to date again. If the breakup was painful and not what you wanted you should take some time to yourself to heal and rediscover who you are. Having said that I know people who repeatedly go straight from relationship to relationship with barely a break. It's as if they are scared of being on their own and grab the first thing that comes along.

@CheshireCat2021 I deffo emotionally checked out a while before ending things. I think that's what made it easy to get over it

@something2say the relationship was 18 months. I mentioned to another user that I emotionally checked out a while ago because I was sick of my exes shit (victim mentality, everything always everyone elses fault except his). I feel kind of ready to date but I also feel a little anxious about getting back out there

@Miffyliffy I agree!

18 months is nothing! (Especially given the last 12 months we've had)
Get yourself back out there if that's what you want.

I reckon you should take some time out, enjoy going out with friends, have fun and once you're having fun and back enjoying life then start dating.

@Sakurami currently trying to make some friends. My two close friends bave moved out of the city for uni and my other friend moved away and had a baby. I'm trying to get my social life together and it's more tricky than I imagined haha

I think if you feel ready go for it and enjoy the date you dont have to commit to anything. Do what you feel is right

Yes I think it is important to have friends, be busy and happy so that you don't end up staying with someone because they are your only source of companionship etc.

@Lozzerbmc thank you!

@Sakurami I agree, thank you

I think go on a date, then ask yourself afterwards how it felt. I did that after my last break up,about 6 months after we broke up. Had one date and realised it was way too soon as I was comparing him to my ex.

You sound more ready than I was!

I suggest you choose something other than an online dating app to make new friends. You're better off doing a sports, creative or volunteering activity.

It will give you a chance to remember who you are and have something to talk about when you do go on dates.