Is this strange?

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50 something husband got a new colleague she's very pretty very efficient and 20 years younger.
Last year there was lots of mentionitis
When I remarked on it he reassured me .
It stopped.
He has nickname for her which she is even filed under in his phone .
He does seem to have nicknames for everyone he works with.
However I was a bit put out recently when he told me she had a medical appt for a woman's issue - he was able to give me some detail on it ... think gynae issue.
Am I odd to think it strange a thirty year old woman is discussing an issue like this with her 50 plus male colleague ?
Or am I just old fashioned.
Nothing untoward in their interactions otherwise .
Partner couldn't see why I thought it was off .
Maybe I am just old fashioned ?

Was it like

"I'm going for a smear test" ?

Some people are very open about things like that. Smears and nothing to be embarrased about and are just regular check ups so a lot of people don't even blink saying they are going something like that. It is strange that he told you though? Is he her superior?

I'm in the same age bracket as the colleague and if I fancied one of my work colleagues I probably wouldn't chat to them about my gynaecological issues

I don't see a problem with just this, I worked for years with mainly men so they probably got told a lot more about me than they wanted to hear!!! Mentionitis may be normal when someome new starts any job, so that could have been nothing...

If there are other behaviours too then I'd be more concerned.

I've told my male boss about gynaecologist type appointments. If I were unwell afterwards I'd want him to know why. Some are more open than others.

There's a lot to be said for busting taboos about periods and gynaecological issues. I applaud people for talking openly about them and normalising it.

I think more women need to be aware tjat their partners, once they KNOW what your trigger spot is, can be very skilled in dropping crumbs of information to wind you up into being jealous for no reason.
OP how do you even KNOW the issue the colleague had was really "gynae related"? What if your partner just threw in that info because he remembered how you seemed to react to him being around a younger, morw attractive colleague? And how hes got a lever to pull whenever he wants you to react a certain way
Theres a book I read in my early 20s and one of the most imp. Rules was the moment a man knows youre jealous or insecure over another woman, YOU make her interesting to him. They keep trying it, you need to learn to play their game and act like youre oblivious to everything

She probably sees him as an old uncle or father figure?
I deffo wouldn't tell someone I fancy about my gynae issues....

Unless they are shagging and it directly affects him but then he wouldn't tell you surely????

To add to my post above too, how do you know she told him specifically, maybe she was telling her female co workers and hehappened to overhear or just be in the same office? My fiance works in a predominantly female office, he gets told all sorts just because he's there!

If it was something along the lines of " I'll be late in Thursday as I have an appointment for my smear test" I don't see any harm in that at all. Women have no need to be embarrassed about such things. It also paves the way if she feels a bit crampy later that day, at least people are aware.
Generations of today know there's no reason to be secretive about such things. It's moved on from the times of whispering their issues behind their hands, or using the "women's problems" reply.

Mmm this happened to me and I found it very strange that xDH was discussing such matters with another woman. Had had a weird feeling about her for a while - we’d had lots of mentionitis too - but was given repeated assurances that they were just friends. When he left me he moved in with her and I think it had been an emotional affair for a while so my spidey senses had not been wrong. Doesn’t mean the same thing is happening with your DH though, but I understand your concern. Hope it turns out, as others are suggesting, to be nothing.

I think your dh/dp is of a good character here. He has told you private info about an issue he might of felt uncomfortable with knowing. I wouldn't personally tell anyone I work with about my private business as I'm the same I feel it's very personal. He has told you so therefore credits are due to him. He also might not known what to say in return. Sound like you have a good man there.

Tbh I wouldn’t like it. However my hubby manages a department and young women have to tell him about health issues etc. one confided about an eating disorder to him. I would be on my guard with the gynae thing though - seems a very personal conversation to me

I'm quite open about gynae issues. I have surgery coming up soon and if someone asks what I'm going in for, I'll happily tell them.
I wouldn't think anything of that tbh.

It's good he's told you.
I would probably keep cool until he starts becoming secretive- then that's probably the time to worry.

I dont think it's a big deal that she mentioned a gynae appt.. I would have possibly done similar with my boss, not the end of the world. I think it's more the fact he has saved this woman under a nickname.... it smacks of a kind of affection? Familiarity? Especially as this isn't the norm and he doesnt save all his colleagues under nicknames.

I think that's what's making you uneasy and so you're questioning things. X

I'm more concerned that he's discussing a work colleagues personal gynae issues with you rally. Surely that's personal information?

Who does that?

Yes I think it's the familiarity rather than the appropriateness of the discussion that spooked me.

I work in a very old fashioned male dominated environment . He works with a much younger set . They often use emojis in work emails - this would be unacceptable in my workplace .