Ok - I've been thinking about writing this for days now - sorry its so long but I need to know if I am the only one who thinks I'm right!!
I met dp when he was a pub landlord and I worked for him. He lived with his gf and their son. They were close to splitting up and she went off to her parents every weekend. I started seeing him, she found out and left. He started off seeing their son every weekend - no problems. I found her diaries and read them and it came to light that since she met dp she just wanted a child and then an excuse to leave him. In the books and letters to her friends she described him as an evil dictator, a bully and much worse and that she had to get away so it was just her and her precious son, and that she was working on a plan to get rid of him. The gf moved back to her parents (which is round the corner from his) and told them all the sob story about him cheating on her!! She has turned his whole family against us. A year later i fell pregnant. She obviously didnt like this and started playing games. When dp went to pick the boy up she had obviously primed him not to go with daddy so dp would come home totally dejected, got very depressed every time this happened and ended up in us having huge rows. Once our dd was born I told him it couldnt carry on as it was affecting us asd a family and wasnt fair so we gave her 3 chances and she blew it so he decided he would stay away until the boy was old enough to make his own choice. However because she had poisoned his family against us his parents refused to see our dd. One day we took her to see his mum and his dad wouldnt even look at dd. I was furious and even more adament that dp didnt have anything more to do with the x and the boy. I later discovered thru further reading that the boy is likely not to even be his. Last year dp's dad died in an accident. I wasnt allowed to go to the funeral with him and dp's mum went to the funeral with his sister on one arm and the x on the other andf pretty much ignored dp. Acouple of months later i found out dp had been sneaking off to see the boy while i thought he was at work. I went mad and told him if he went back he would lose us. Iknow deep down hew hates me for doing that but I had all this crap while I was growing up and I dont want my 2 dragged into her games. Am i in the wrong?? Should i let him see the boy at the risk of my children having him around one minute then not when it suits her? I dont think i can do that but dont want to lose dp over it!! Sorry this is so long!! If you're still awake i need some honest advice!