Am I wrong?

[tillyilybe]

I told my partner I didn't need him but that I simply want to be him.

Having a stupid heated discussion and I decided to drop that line above because I felt strongly that i wanted him to know I don't depend on him for everything but that I'm with him because I'm I want to be and I love him.

He was deeply upset in my mind it didn't sound as intense..... After I said it I was like hmm.

It is how I feel though I don't want him to think I'm here because of the lifestyle he can offer me and that I have no Indepedence or confidence to conquer the world again alone.

We have a big ish age gap sometimes he has old fashioned mindsets on things where I'm a bit more practical!

Anyway should I feel terrible? He looked so sad like a little puppy and then he said well I want you love you and I definitely need you.

I was like ouch.

Thoughts ? X

I'm not sure, good question though...

Is this the golddiggers's dance?

@Onthedunes

I'm not sure, good question though...

Is this the golddiggers's dance?

Haha sounds like it doesn't it...

I'm 30 he is 45!!!

He grew up well off and I grew up in a low income family but have now reached a point in career when I can live very comfortably. So I wouldn't say it's a gold digger situation.

I think maybe i effected his EGO

I don't know but he looks liked bruised peach today

I can't quite make out why he was upset. You effectively told him, you don't have to be with him, but you choose to because you want to be with him. Sounds like a good thing to my ears.

You're not wrong. I think in some circumstances people need to be reminded that we may want them, but do not need them. Big difference.

A 45 year old man acting like a puppy who's been kicked, all because you said that you could choose to leave him, but haven't.
He's after codependency which is not attractive at all.

Oh the poor man and his damaged ego. 😭

I've said the same in the past to my partner too (not sure it's relevant but he's 17 years older).
I didn't day it to be mean but he was rubbish when we first moved into together and was rubbish in the house and with the baby. I lived on my son with my eldest DS and coped perfectly fine. So I did at one point tell him I was with him because I love him and want to be but I don't actually need anyone and if he wasn't going to bring anything to the relationship then I'd rather be on my own!