Help me in this situation with my two guy friends?

[Mallona]

I got 2 guy friends (Alex and Sam). We’re all in the same class. At a party recently Sam told Alex that I'm in love with Alex and that he himself (Sam) is in love with me. After that talk Alex left the party and acted very cold towards me. I got mad at Sam because he had no business telling Alex I like him.

At first Alex was very distant and avoidant towards me. But now he often say things about Sam to me that makes Sam look bad, it almost seems like he doesn't want me to be friends with him.

Now after a while Sam started acted all weird and cold towards me, which I told Alex and he replied ”Well he is in love with you or something.”

Why are they acting like this and what does Alex and Sam each feel for me? I am just confused.
To clear out - We are all classmates. I’ve been close friends with them both and they’ve been ”normal class mates”, like they know each other but doesnt hang out.

I think you all need to grow up and mumsnet should should have an age limit

Have you not got any homework to be getting on with?

This isn’t really the right place to ask. Can you write in to Just Seventeen or something?

I would cut your losses with both of them (romance wise). Don't ruin your friendships with them. Talk to them honestly and openly about how each of them feel. Then move on. Tell them you value their friendship more than a relationship. I imagine that the one you fancy now fancies you because he is now aware of your feelings. So both probably fancy you! And are pissed that you haven't made a move. Honestly, the drama isn't worth it. You have your whole life for romances.

This is 'Mumsnet not the playground

Please know that there is NO such thing as platonic friends between the sexes.

@HidingFromTheChildren

Please know that there is NO such thing as platonic friends between the sexes.

Bullshit.

@Mallona how old are you?

LTB

Jesus behave everyone just because it’s a problem someone younger is having.

Sounds like they both like you but Alex felt loyalty to Sam first of all as his friend since Sam had already told Alex he liked you. Maybe now not so much if he’s putting him down.

It’s tricky when friends start trying to date, especially when two friends both like the same person. Your best bet is to think about what you actually want and talk to them both honestly.

I had similar issues in preschool. Speak to your mum.

Stop worrying so much about what they want and think about what YOU want. Do you actually fancy either of them or think a relationship with them could work?

I remember feeling so confused about men's (boys') feelings that I sometimes forgot to stop and think about my own. E.g. you might actually think they're both a waste of space or totally unfanciable.

Do you have any decent female friends who are a bit more detached and can give you some insight into what's going on?

Sounds like a bit of jealousy. Do you still like Alex?

I do

Just be honest with both.

Well if you like Alex then Sam is an irrelevance. Has Alex shown any signs that he likes you? I don't include slagging off Sam!!

He is a very shy guy so its hard to know. But he has told me Im the kindest girl he has ever met. At parties he sometimes calls me to ask If Im coming there soon. I catch him staring sometimes. But sometimes he acts cold so I dont know.

So no one who likes you should ever leave you feeling confused about how they feel about you. This is known as a red flag and woulda like Alex blows hot and cold. This means he isn't a good prospect for a relationship as you will never know if you are coming or going. If you like Sam as a friend just be his friend.

People are being very mean to someone who is obviously very young.
If you don’t have any helpful advice for OP don’t comment trying to bully her just read and move on.

I remember how heartbroken when my crush wouldn't play in the sandpit with me and threw sand in my eyes because his friend liked me.

Give us an idea how old you all are, Mallona?

Have you ever seen Alex in a relationship or pursuing a relationship with other girls? Maybe he's just really inexperienced/shy and doesn't have the foggiest clue what to do.

Vivid memories of one like this at my school, I was too shy to approach him as well and then my mate swooped in and kissed him right in front of me. Should have done it myself!

or he could be gay of course.

To be honest I would just make an excuse to hang out with him one to one outside school, and see how he reacts when you're on your own.

You've posted about the same guy three times tonight. Jeez.

And 'Alex' already said he doesnt have feelings for you. Just move on.