Boyfriend help!! Should he stay or go? 😳😳

[abby2303]

Hi Ive been with my bf for 6 years. My son is 6 he isnt that father.
When i got with my bf he had addiction issues which i didnt know about until 1 year in, he went to rehab, came out lived with his mum for a year then moved back. Now he has anxiety and depression so hes working throught that.
I work a lot so he helps getting my son from school etc but always the house is a complete dump he doesnt do any kinda housework or cleaning and he now wants a baby, I do as well but I just dont know if i want a baby with him!!
I know he loves me but Im unsure if i love him, it seems like our entire relationship has been about him and his problems. Hes amazing with my son. Hes a really nice guy. Sex is good.
I met one of my sons friends dads and I really like him hes single, and well Im not so nothing has happened we dont talk or anything but i cant stop thinking about him tbh. I feel really bad about it.

What should I do

I think you need to be by yourself.

it's a no from me 🌸

@Lbnc2021

I think you need to be by yourself.

I second this, you’re in a relationship where you aren’t all that happy at all, and I think a new man is the last thing you need, just finish with the current one and be single for a bit, and when you get that relationship ‘out of your hair’ (even if your unhappy then I always think people should be single for a wee while after a relationship ends) and if the man you like is still single then go for it!

Good luck.

Yeah I wouldnt go after the guy tbh Im a shy person lol. But my bf would be devastated if i split up with him and so would my son. Maybe Im just going through a "your pissing me off" stage with my bf? Im so confuses it actually hurts my head haha

Name change fail?

Definitely don't have a baby with your boyfriend. What's he bringing to the relationship apart from sex and picking your son up from school?

Yeah I got the fear. I have this username for everything haha.

Yeah but ur right not very much, even if we have a movie night he just sits on the phone then asks me whats happened. Does my head in tbh

@Stacey2987

Yeah I got the fear. I have this username for everything haha.

Yeah but ur right not very much, even if we have a movie night he just sits on the phone then asks me whats happened. Does my head in tbh

I can't believe you're even asking.

He wants a baby with you, it’s a security thing- you can’t break up with him if you have a kid together. Don’t. You’ll be doing everything and he’ll do nothing.

Sounds like a period without anyone would help you to clarify your feelings. He doesn't sound much of a keeper.

If you're having these concerns then under no circumstances should you bring a baby in to the picture.

Having a child should only be considered if you're in a strong loving relationship. It's unfair on the potential child to be brought in to a world where it's parents don't get on

Go. As soon as possible.

Yep, end it. Give yourself some time to sort your head out, then think about a new relationship.

The house is a dump.
He does no housework
He does no cleaning.
What does he do?

Actually if I'm being honest you sound as though you have had your head turned by someone else. The g ass isn't always greener, you have been with him for a while and relationships get full. He us a good dad to your son , if it's just that he's untidy get a cleaner lol. Depression often makes you not be able to face cleaning etc

If it's because you don't love him. Then leave

Absolutely do NOT have a baby with this man. You will regret it.

I think the new guy is a completely seperate issue from the current one, but if your current guy is giving you "not the one" vibes, then you need to break up gently and not waste his or your time any longer. Doesnt mean you need to just jump in with the other guy that you hardly know. Getting together with one of your friends kids parents is kind of awkward for the kids if it doesnt work out

Time to move on
But please don’t build this new guy up in your head to be this amazing catch. You really have no idea what he is like.

And it could get really messy fast if your DC are friends.

Your heads been turned and now everything about your current partner irritates you, the grass isn't always greener, the guy you fancy, he may not even want a relationship with you. It's not easy to find a long lasting compatible relationship with men that want children and adapt to the one you've already got, you may find yourself alone for while before you ever find it again, just bare that in mind before you decide to break up with him.

This has disaster written all over it

Dump!

Does he work? Is wanting a baby because it would give him a reason to stay at home while you work?

You haven’t said anything positive about this man OP besides the fact that he picks your son up from school. You’d likely be better off without him and paying for after school club

What does the current guy do all day?

Does he work? Because that makes a difference as to who is responsible for the state of the house.

You definitely shouldn't have a child in this situation. You need to sort out your feelings for him first and what your life together looks like.