Any advice

[Jane88b]

I’m 6 months pregnant, and my partner hasn’t told his family or friends.
He’s not bought anything for our child, I’ve paid and organised for everything.
After a turbulent few months he doesn’t know if he wants to continue a relationship with me, I have tried to fix this for a family and he is pushing me away.
I’ve been told to leave and carry on my life with my child by friends, but it’s very hard when in your mind you pictured a happy family, but should you with someone who hasn’t told anyone?
Thank you

Do you live together?

How is your relationship in general, how does he treat you? What has caused the turbulence?

He's not supporting this relationship or pregnancy. I agree with your friends. Leave before the baby is born. Choose happiness over hard work.

Take care of yourself, as you have been doing. 🌸

Assuming you live together and he wants out shouldnt he leave? Whats your housing situation and are you working? I hope you have some family support

I'm sorry but I agree with your friends.

He is taking the cowards way out already anyway and hoping you leave him first. Do it yourself. Make it public. Make it clear to everyone that he can't cope with the responsibility.

Look after yourself and make a plan for you and baby. And rely on your friends. They've got your back.

You will be fine.

We did live together. But I have moved out. I am on my own now x

Well you're 6 months pregnant so he needs to make a decision pretty soon. Tell him to man up and decide what he wants. I'd give him a week and then if he wants out he can pack his bags and leave. That's of course you want to be with him. I don't think I could stay with someone who couldn't be involved properly but it's not my life and only you know if this can work or not.

There has been a trust issues between us for a while, from us both. I have made it very verbal how it has made me feel to not have any of this family support or help.
It’s very hard to walk away when you’re in love but the priority will shift to our child.

Damn right it's hard. But you've done it. So please be proud of yourself.

Your baby will have a much happier life with a Mum who is strong enough to recognise a shit situation, and put herself and child first, instead of running around trying to keep a crap bloke happy.

You ROCK. x

Thank you everyone. It’s not something I feel comfortable “walking away” from, but I think for mental health and anxiety etc, it’s best I deal with heartbreak now x

Be kind to yourself .. try not to stress.. you have done so well leaving 🌸

Jane, he is not emotionally or financially invested in your relationship and pregnancy. Clinging to him will only drag you down and diminish your energy. Walk away and have a wonderful life with your little blessing. 🌻

Concentrate on you and your baby - this is a special time for you and if he is not 100% supportive and committed now he sure as hell won't be when the little bundle arrives. It is sad he has not told friends or family - I am assuming he wants to have no role as a father at all.
You will be calmer and stronger on your own and think of all of those wonderful amazing memories you are going to make with your child - he on the other hand will have to live with the torture of what he is done - shameful

Thank you everyone, I’ve been clinging onto the hope that could reconcile for me he baby.
When we do see one another he does touch my belly, but I feel he isn’t supportive. I viewed a nursery for our child last week and he didn’t turn up to view it with me, but has been to all scans