It's come to light over the past few years (i.e. not during one heat of the moment comment) that my husband doesn't consider me particularly attractive, and never actually has. Recently it came up again, and I asked him if he considers any aspects of my face ugly; he indicated that he does, but he won't tell me what, exactly. I asked him if he thinks I have nice eyes (my best feature, I think). He said no. Nice smile? Again, no. I asked him if there's any aspect of my face that he likes, and he thought for a long time, and then said "I like your cheeks when you smile". I told him that being so specific actually kind of feels worse, like he really has to dig deep to think of something he likes to the point that it's not actually a compliment, and his response was basically a there's-no-pleasing-you sort.
I'm quite upset that he essentially considers me facially unattractive. He clearly thinks I'm overreacting, and has said that he loves me and that should be enough. I honestly don't know what to think. Would this upset you? I actually (used to) think I'm fairly nice looking (questioning that now), and I know it's all kind of superficial, but ultimately I want my partner to think the same. My belief is that most people feel similarly. He thinks otherwise, and has hinted that placing importance on his opinion of my appearance is wrong and a bit weird of me.
There's no way I'm discussing this with people I know, but I'm pretty confused and sad about it all. I've signed up especially to post, though I've read threads on Mumsnet on and off for years. Do I just need to get over it/myself?