Quick scene set - married 25 years with DC who are late teens (1 at home 1 at uni). There are some other issues in are marriage I have let go on for too long but I told him what they are and (we are not there yet by a long shot) but he is working on them. But there are some behavioural things I feel I need to approach through assertiveness, but also don't want to feel I am overreacting when he is trying so hard in other areas. I know that many of us spend lots of our time basically talking s**t and also that each family have their own little weird sayings, made up words etc, but I think my DH takes this to a level I find weird and suffocating. This has crept up over the years, I can't put my finger on when it started. It is mainly me but also the DC he will say these things to (obviously some are only said to me as you will see). Some examples " is your name sally potatoes?" (my name is not Sally...), What colour are you? (????) Why don't you let me cum in your mouth anymore? (for context - this is not a question he actually wants to discuss, our sex life is one of the better aspects of our relationship). These types of things are said multiple times a day. He knows he is doing it, It is exhausting as he actually expects a response!! I either ignore him or give a non-response - he must know that this is not some game I am going to play with him. There are other things he says repeatedly that he doesn't know so much he is saying (like a verbal tick) - these are all pretty much about me (where's the wife/I love my wife/my wife is beautiful) - I feel so pressured. He has had depression for years (currently good) but I feel there is other stuff there as well. I can't bear it - I need it to stop, it makes me not want to be anywhere near him. How do I approach this without sounding like a bitch - and I don't know what I can do about the stuff that just gets blurted out without him really knowing until he does it. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? NB - I know this must make him sound like a complete crack pot but he really isn't, but he does have a very strong personality. At a loss here......